TL;DR
I recently found out my bf of 3.5 years betrayed my trust and has lied to me for months about what he was going when he was on his European trip. While he was gone, we talked every day, but he was always super vague about what he did. When he got back, he casually mentioned doing trivia one night. A month later, he posted pics on Instagram, and one showed him, his friend, and a girl I’d never heard of. When I asked, he said she was just someone from the hostel who did trivia with them.
Months later, I went through his phone and found messages between him and his friend that really upset me. This is what the messages said This is his friend- F: 2 man?
Ur cooked already u might as well
My boyfriend :Nah
His friend : py
My bf: Need some
His friend :U soft now, Issy got in ur head
My boyfriend: Like rn yah im soft
His friend ;Hate to see the Donny like this
It's crazy to cuz we would be great in the bars
My bf: Bro we could've been out to the club last night
His friend :I almost died last night
Py
My bf: You got no chance if they're French and German Donny I'm sorrv
When I confronted him, he said nothing happened then admitted he, his friend, and this girl jumped into a river in just their underwear. After I pushed more, he admitted there was another girl too. I feel sick. I don’t know what else he’s hiding, and I live with him. I’m not sure what to do