I (18M) have been dating my girlfriend (18F) for about 9 months, with it becoming 10 months on August 11. She invited me to her cottage this week. Originally, I was supposed to come on Tuesday, since her friend (18F) was already there and was going home Monday with my girlfriend’s dad, who would drop her off.
Then my girlfriend asked if I could come on Monday instead and stay an extra day, because her friend wanted to extend her stay, and I would be driving her friend home instead.
I told her I didn’t feel comfortable with that plan, because I wanted to spend one on one time with her, not tag along and feel like a third wheel while accommodating their change of plans.
Her response was to say I was being controlling, that she spends time with me all the time, and that I expect her whole world to revolve around me. I replied explaining my side in detail (I can share screenshots if needed).
After that, she told me she doesn’t need me or her friend and would just meet new people. She turned off her location and told me not to worry about her whereabouts.
I feel completely cut off and anxious now. I’ve always tried to prioritize her needs in this relationship, but this time it feels like my own comfort was ignored.
My questions is what should I do next? Should I reach out again or give her space? Should I end up coming Monday or should I see this as something to bring up in a breakup talk, I don’t know!!
TL;DR
My girlfriend (18F) cut me off and turned off her location after I (18M) refused to drive her friend back from the cottage instead of spending time alone with her. Now she says she’ll meet new people. I’m stuck on how to move forward . advice appreciated.
Edit: she did not break up with me and by cut off contact I mean completely ignoring me. And thank you for all the comments and insights I’m really finding it a lot easier to accept the thought of breaking up with her. It will most likely happen in person when she’s back!