So I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months. We really connected. Similar taste in music, hobbies, sense of humor. I felt comfortable with him. Last week he asked me to be official and I said yes. I met his family, who said they really liked me. Even our friends would say we made sense together and should be dating.
Last weekend, we stopped by a female friend’s house who was throwing a surprise party. She was polite but the vibe was weird, like she didn’t really want him there. It made me feel like maybe I was being shown off to prove something. We left within 5-10 min. She was nice to me, gave me a hug and sarcastically said “good luck with him”.
Then I went on a work trip. We barely talked while I was gone, just a short convo one day. When I got back, I tried to plan something so we could catch up, but he said he was busy. That wasn’t even the part that bothered me. He said he’d call me and didn’t until after midnight. I was asleep by then.
Later, I found out he was at a bar with another woman and dodged my question as to who she was. I don’t know what happened between them, but I texted him the next morning saying we needed to chat. He left me on read. Hours later, I told him I wasn’t expecting total silence. He finally replied with a long message saying I’m amazing and he doesn’t deserve me. Which feels like a way of ending things without really talking to me.
I liked him a lot and genuinely wanted this to work. It just sucks. I don’t understand why he asked to be official if he wasn’t serious about showing up.