Small background about me: I (22m) have never been in a relationship (Had my fair share of crushes, but have always been too afraid of rejection/socially anxious to actually ask them out) but have always wanted to be in one, more than anything. I am also planning on going back to college in January(Got an associates degree in IT, but learned through doing an internship and through the difficult classes that it’s not for me) so I’m looking for something new to go back to college for.
Anyways, I’ve tried different classes for different majors and none of them have made me feel confident (Digital Media Production, Accounting, IT, etc), whenever I imagine myself in any of these professions, I imagine myself being miserable, but that’s a story for another day. Anyways, through these experiences, I’ve learned that I’m never gonna truly find meaning in life with any career path, I find meaning in life by doing things I love outside of work (Not just dating, but other personal hobbies too). My parents (Especially my dad) thinks I should be more invested/motivated in getting a good money-making career and saving up for the future rather than obsessing over being single, but in my opinion, there’s no point in living if you can’t have what makes you happy. So finding a career path that pays well but also allows you to work 4 or 3 days a week would be ideal. (I’m considering being a Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA) because they allow 3 12 hour days, but at the same time I’m not 100% sure that’s what I wanna do or not)
Anyways, I’ve done some research on how to maintain a romantic relationship and reduce the chances of a girlfriend/wife breaking up with you or cheating on you. One of the main reasons women might break up with you is if you’re too busy with your job and don’t have too much time off because your job is very demanding and therefore barely get to see each other, making work even more depressing because you can never get a girlfriend that will last, and it’s not even your fault. This also increases the chances of her cheating on you as well from what I’ve heard, and I really don’t want that. 😓
So for that reason, I really want a job that gives me a decent amount of time off and will make me more available to be able to have a love life, and a romantic connection with someone special. I see a lot of people I used to know on instagram that are engaged to their BF/GF that they’ve been with since High School and that scares me because I feel like my time to find someone is running out, I really don’t want to be single and alone forever. I really wanna meet someone. 😓
Anyways if you all have any career path ideas that will allow time to have a real love life, please let me know. I would appreciate any career ideas and other advice you all can give me. Thank you all.
(Also sorry if this isn’t the right subreddit to post this in, I just don’t really know where else to post this.)