My wife and I are new parents – I love being a dad, but the lack of sleep and exercise gets to me sometimes, especially late at night. I will snap at her without realizing it – for example, I was watching one of the girls (we have twins) while they slept. I’d planned to work on my laptop beside my daughter and care for her as needed (give her her passy, bottle, etc) when at some point I started to doze off. My wife asks me if I am able to stay awake or am falling asleep and I respond in an angry and dismissive tone, “I don’t know yet.” The last thing I want to do is be mean to her – she’s an amazing wife and mom, but here I am pulling this shit on her. And sleep deprivation is not an excuse because she is also tired- more tired than me- but she does not or rarely snaps at me. The way I’m responding is messed up and not a reflection of my deep love for her – but lately she has started to ask if I secretly hate her – i guess her thinking is that if this is how I treat her when I’m exhausted then this must be how I really feel about her. Does anyone have any advice for how I can get a hold of myself in these beautiful but stressful times?