Basically the title, in case anyone needs a reminder of this today.
So I met this man, and I actually liked him. His voice, his eyes, his vibe, even his balding head with greying hair that he tried to hide under a cap.
But that wasn't enough, he couldn't just take that and move forward with getting to know each other slow and steady. He wanted to make me fall in love with him, obsess over him, so he started playing all these stupid dark psychology games. The last one? He created a cycle of high (sharing really tough family situation), then vanished for weeks, hoping that I would chase him. I didn't.
Now he's reappeared after over a month, texting me pretending that he had lost his phone and contacts (even though he could have easily contacted me some other way, I have a clear online presence). It is not the first time he creates a massive high then disappears, this is how trauma bonds (addiction like dependencies) are created, and he knows it, but he doesn't know that I know it too. I blocked him.
I liked this man, but he is afraid of showing up as a real person and getting rejected for who he is, so he wears this mask, lies, puts on this show, and performs, a full on damn theatre. So I lost trust in and respect for him. So yeah, if you think you can hide your insecurities and fast track feelings via stupid games, don't. You'll only win stupid prizes. And you'll miss out on real connections. Unless, of course, trauma bonds and control is all that you are after.