I (21M) had been seeing this girl (22F) that I met on tinder for 2 months. Right from the first date it was clear we had a strong connection, and over the past two months it continued to grow. We went on around 6 dates, hung out with each others friends probably 2-3 times besides that, had deep convos, and the physical chemistry was strong as well. To sum it up things seemed perfect and I had no doubts they would keep going. On the fourth date we had a long conversation about past relationships and what we were looking for, she said she wanted something long term but due to some past relationship experience she really wanted to make sure we weren’t jumping into anything, physically or emotionally.
Cut to last week, I ask if she wants to meet up, and she says she’s going to be busy with school and work and probably doesn’t have the time, this is the first time she’s ever said no to making plans so I don’t think much of it. I’m also in the middle of studying for finals so I’ve been extremely busy as well and that only added to the stress. Then the texting slows down, she’s maybe only messaging me once a day, but she’s making it clear she’s busy and still giving engaged responses so I don’t think much of it. Then she leaves me on delivered for a bit over two days, and when she finally gets back to me she says she’s been super busy lately and it’s made her realize she still needs to focus on herself and that she’s not ready to start anything. She also said she’d still like to be friends and maybe sometime down the line try again, I don’t really buy that and I wouldn’t be able to look at her as just a friend after everything.
I’m honestly crushed, it felt like things were going great between us, I’ve told almost all my friends and even my parents about her, and out of nowhere I get blindsided by things ending. I don’t even want to believe that message is real it just doesn’t make sense to me.