TL;DR:
My husband and I used to have a warm and romantic relationship, but lately he’s been cold, serious, and treats me more like a child than a wife. Life feels strict and heavy. I want to bring the love and lightness back — any advice?
I’m a 24-year-old female, and I’ve been married for about two years to a 29-year-old man.
In the beginning, our marriage was full of love, romance, and all those warm feelings. But lately, something feels off between us. He’s become colder and more serious. He often yells and treats me like a child who needs to be “raised properly.”
Many times, I don’t feel like I’m in my own home with my husband — it feels more like I’m in the military or on trial in a courtroom.
I’m not saying he’s a bad person — he really tries his best to provide for us, covering most of our household essentials like food and basic needs, even though we’re going through financial hardship.
But life lately has become more about discipline than love… more about structure than spontaneity.
I miss the warmth, softness, and playfulness we used to have.
Is this just a phase couples go through?
How can I bring back the connection between us?