So I (22m) have never had a girlfriend or relationship before, but am actively trying to find the perfect life partner. Recently, I realized that I am more romantically attracted to women that are older than me. They can be as young as 23 (Not much older at all lol), but I probably wouldn’t date anyone over 30. I’ve gone most of my adult life thinking dating someone younger is the better option because women tend to mature faster than men, but looking back to my High School crushes, and other crushes I’ve had on women younger than me, they would have NOT been girlfriend material in my opinion. They were all super popular, had a lot of guy friends (Which is okay to an extent, but definitely not as many as a lot of them had), most always had an excuse ready to give me whenever I asked to hang out (As friends, not romantically yet), and looking back, I don’t think I would’ve emotionally connected with any of them, and I feel like a lot of them would have likely cheated on me if they found someone better, or have tried to take complete control over me.
Recently, I’ve been having more interactions with women that are older than me (Through co-workers and just other places that I regularly go to), and have noticed a huge difference in the way they talk to me, the way they actually seem to care about me (Even if just as friends), and the way they actually seem to just be a lot more friendly with me and not completely fake. Overall just a lot more mature and seemingly more emotionally available which is overall what I would really look for in a relationship, I’m more likely to have a meaningful connection with someone like that. I’ve developed feelings for a girl I work with, she’s 30 but we talk a lot and she honestly does help me get through tough days there. I’m not going to ask her out because I’ve overheard her say that she’s been with a guy for 10 years and doesn’t want to pour all her energy into a guy right now, but that’s completely okay, I’ve got other options. Thanks to her, I’ve learned about what age is best for relationship material. I’ve also developed smaller feelings for a couple of other people as well. Not just with dating either, I feel like I get along with my friends that are older than me rather than my friends who are my age who are so clingy and controlling and just make me mad at them all the time.
Anyways, I’ve recently developed attraction for older women due to everything I said above. Is that considered wrong or is it okay? Some people say that guys who like younger woman are wrong, but is it wrong vice-versa too? I just don’t want to look like a creep more than anything, I actually am looking for something real and meaningful. Anyways, is this wrong or is it okay? Thank you all in advance for your answers.