Background: I (Almost 32/F)have been in a relationship (Just turned 46/M) for almost 3 years. We have lived together for a little over 2 years (Both of our names are on the lease). He was recently divorced when I met him. Two years later we started dating (after he briefly dated someone else).
Dilemma # 1 We drink- OFTEN. He says he started when his ex wife cheated- but that was 6 years ago. I have fallen into the trap of alcohol abuse while with him. I know it is not entirely his fault, so please be easy on me.
Dilemma # 2 I have trust issues due to past hurt/lies in my life and relationship. I question everything- I think I’m going crazy. He has not fully healed from his divorce, but says he is past her (I believe him). However, we are kerosene for each other (alcohol never helps).
Dilemma # 3 His parents have bailed him out of SO much in the past, and honestly, I don’t like them. They are judgmental and BABY him. Helicopter parents!
Dilemma # 4 I have nowhere else to go if I break up and move out. I don’t want to because we do have some good times but… life is too short to always be angry.
What should my next steps be?
TL;DR- Female with trust issues in a relationship. We drink too much and not happy. Female has nowhere to go if she moves out. Next steps?