TL;DR: Guy I met two weeks ago started off texting and flirting a lot. We hooked up the second time we met, but since then his texting has dropped off, and he’s less flirty and slow to respond. I’m unsure if he’s still interested or just wanted sex. Feeling confused and not sure if I should meet him again.
Here’s the situation. I met him in person about 2 weeks ago. The texting and flirting over text started strong and frequent. He said he’s looking for a relationship. When we met he seemed to be interested in me and getting to know me. We had arranged to go back to my place and spend the night (I had clarified beforehand I did not want things to get too sensual yet when he comes over). Things get heated at my place, and I shut him down after making a move. I told him I need to wait a while to get to know him, he said for him he prefers to get it out of the way to make sure we’re compatible, but that I don’t need to feel pressured, that’s just how he feels. Things get heated again, he makes another move implying sex, I shut it down again. Then leaves soon after saying I seem nice so he needs to leave. I’m confused as he had planned to spend the night, and I clarified I did not want anything too sensual to begin with.
Next time we met, we had sex, and we both enjoyed it. He actually said he loved me after sex but quickly backtracked and said he really liked me. He had other plans with friends so had to leave soon after. The texts since then have been once a day, not very flirty if at all, and not fully responding to what I’ve texted. Last Thursday I asked if he wanted to meet Friday or Saturday, and he said he’d get back to me Friday. I text him Friday morning to check in, and asked him why he hasn’t been texting as frequently. He texts me at 11:30 pm on Friday saying we couldn’t do the weekend, and that he’s been busy with finals. I tell him I understand and good luck with finals. Saturday he texts me that we can do something Tuesday and asks how I’m doing. I say that sounds good, I’m feeling under the weather, and ask how finals are going. He says they are tough but doesn’t respond to my comment about feeling under the weather.
I’m confused by this situation. Why would he leave when we initially met? Why is he texting significantly less frequently and less flirty even with finals, wouldn’t he still text anyway? Is he only interested in me for sex? I don’t want to meet with him Tuesday if he is expecting that. I’ve only been in one relationship prior but for 4 years. Any honest input would be helpful, I’m (clearly lol) having a hard time telling if this is my anxiety, or he is genuinely uninterested now that we’ve had sex.