I have been with my gf for a little over a year now. We have moved in together and we work together. We have made passing comments of moving to another state, but nothing solid atm.
Early on in the relationship, we discussed previous relationships and partners. I was very open about mine, but she was kind of cagey and said she only had one that was kind of an abusive relationship, but she hinted at others. I didn't question her because I knew she had a lot of trauma.
Fast forward to last night, she saw her ex at our place of work. I asked her which person her ex was, but she misunderstood and started explaining which ex it was she saw. So that tells me there are more that I don't know about. It's been bothering me because she knows everyone I was with and had interest in in the past, but she has never actually told me everyone she was with.
Should I sit her down and talk to her about this? If so, how should I go about it without triggering PTSD or trauma? I don't want her to shut down and be cagey again just like when we first met.
TL;DR GF mentioned more than one previous partner in the past. I only knew about one of them, even after we talked about all of our previous partners and relationships.