I ‘18 F’ have been dating my bf ‘18 M’ for 10 months. We have been on and off for a little while and recently decided on a break so we could decide if we were over or not. During the break we laid no ground rules or anything we didn’t speak on it, just said we wouldn’t really talk to each other at all.
During the break, one of my friends keep giving me compliments that I brushed off and ignored. Later these developed into to trying to ruin my relationship which is where I warned him to stop or I’d block him.(I have now removed him from everything and don’t wish to talk to him again as the comments made me quite uncomfortable).
However, I keep overthinking that I may have said something that encouraged him to say those things and it’s making me feel quite guilty I didn’t block him to begin with but I didn’t want to as he’s always been there for me through relationship and family issues and I enjoyed the attention and comfort he gave me cause he helped me get through some stuff. But I just can’t stop overthinking that maybe I have accidentally said something or had given him the wrong impression and that’s why he carried on or something I don’t know..
TL/DR:
I love my bf so much and he’s the only person I’d ever want to be with but he tends to get quite jelous over things so I think the fear of his reaction to the situation has made me overthink that maybe I encouraged or my jokes came off the wrong way or something stupid like that, that could’ve gone as flirting even tho I don’t like him at all I think I just liked the friendship and attention I got. But other people told me the situation was fine and that even if I did accidentally say something that we were on a break from each other and it would’ve been okay, but I think I’m just bored and overthinking, I spoke to my bf about it a little while ago he said he was a little hurt but got over it and and thinks it’s silly. But I feel like I’m carrying guilt for something I don’t even know if I did but it’s the what if I accidentally did, I think it’s all because I’m quite a people pleaser and I hate hurting anyone so i just feel weighed down and I don’t want to ruin my relationship as we are in such a good place now.