I just moved to a small town…
And most of the guys are big, gruff trades guys.
I never realized that I was so scared of large guys with beards before!
Also no one uses any apps but tinder, so I’m about to go on tinder for the first time ever too…
I feel like I should at least try go on a couple dates with these guys that scare me…. (I might be mildly autistic, people ask me if I am, I’m stubbornly saying no but this is making me reconsider) I do not understand men, at all, especially those with a strong focus on sex, are literally just a mystery to me… like things like ‘just the tip’ I thought was literal. I have no experience with them, so I can be very naïve— like someone invited me back to their place to watch a movie, and I believed them, only to find out they meant ‘Netflix and chill’.
So, I need some advice on who to watch out for, common things they’ll say/do that mean alternate things, and especially how to find out if they secretly have a family, cause I read 2/3s of people on tinder aren’t single.
TLDR: I’m in a town full of “manly” men. I don’t want to judge a book by it’s cover and feel like I should at least try date some of them… but I’m really scared. So women or gay men who date people who could easily physically harm you, how do you do it? Or big guys, what are warning signs of the bad ones?