When he kept showing up. I dug my heals into the ground and the mf dug his entire being into the earths core to prove he has good intentions.
What am I going to do, dig my heals into space? He won and I couldn’t be more happy about it
My ex! I’ve been fairly lucky in the bf department but it wasn’t until I was with him that I started to understand the kind of things it’s ok to expect from a partner – reliability, trust, thoughtfulness, consistency, accountability, shared labor, caretaking, etc. I don’t think I ever thought good men didn’t exist, I think he just changed or expanded my understanding of what a “good man” looks like in practice.
Oh I lost faith, when even a trans man just did the same old same old that any cis men did with just more sass ✨ to it?
Naaah im fine, im staying away from the whole world now 😭😂
My bf, I‘m super lucky with him, he’s loyal, supportive, caring, loves me for who I am, has zero toxic masculine traits and so on… I’m convinced he‘s an absolute exception and men like him are rare!
My son. I raised him right.
My good taste in men?
I recently joined a young adult youth. Usually we finish really late. A friend of mine walks me to my car each week, making sure I’m safe. It’s a little gesture but I really appreciate it.
My dad. The way he loves my mom, takes care of us and never asks for anything in return. It showed me that real, good men still exist.
Spending time offline
i saw a man walk past a homeless woman and he dropped bread in her cart without her knowing. if you didn’t look at his hands you wouldn’t notice it either he had such a straight face and he just walked past her and boom bread in her cart. i hope he is having a great life.
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Routinely interacting with decent and good men. Not generally entertaining bad and toxic men. And if I found myself with one actually taking responsibility for putting myself there, cutting him off and reflecting on why that ended up happening. Basically having standards, upping those standards and naturally not being a people pleasing doormat.
I know because my Dad is one.
I married one
A few yrs back I was taking my kids who were then 2 and 9 to a amusement and water park for younger kids and my mom and step dad were going to, but decided to take their Harley. I pulled into the gas station I have gone to since I was a teen and know all the workers at (all male. I’m only stating they are all male as it pertains to this question). I get along really well with all the workers, and they are all really nice to my kids when we go. Well, when I went to get gas, I ran into the store real quick to buy something to drink with my kids, and my mom and step had also pulled into the gas station to fill up. When me and the kids were on our way back to my car my stepdad whose a big biker guy, lots of tats, and just intimidating looking (but the bigfwst sweetheart and greatest stepdad I could ever ask for) comes over to ask me something and immediately 3 of the gas station. Workers run up to me and my kids and surround us in like a protection wall and asking my stepdad what he wants with me and the kids and if I was safe. I was shocked at first, but then realized they had never seen me with my stepdad and thought me and the kids were in trouble. My heart was warmed so much in that instance and after I quickly explained that it was my stepdad and then kept apologizing to my stepdad, I couldnt stop thanking them and gave them all the biggest hug for protecting me and my kids without hesitation when they thought we might be in troubl. My step dad also thanked all of them too.
Never in my life had I ever felt so safe and cared for. I’ve had a lot of bad stuff happen to me over the yrs (survivor of human trafficking and domestic abuse), and it’s just nice to know that there really are still nice men out there that are willing to help someone out when they need it (or think they need it) without wanting some type of sexual favor in return (yes had that happen to me more than once when I was being trafficked).
To this day, that is still the only gas station I will go to when Im in my area because of how much respect I have for all of the ppl that work there.
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When he kept showing up. I dug my heals into the ground and the mf dug his entire being into the earths core to prove he has good intentions.
What am I going to do, dig my heals into space? He won and I couldn’t be more happy about it
My ex! I’ve been fairly lucky in the bf department but it wasn’t until I was with him that I started to understand the kind of things it’s ok to expect from a partner – reliability, trust, thoughtfulness, consistency, accountability, shared labor, caretaking, etc. I don’t think I ever thought good men didn’t exist, I think he just changed or expanded my understanding of what a “good man” looks like in practice.
Oh I lost faith, when even a trans man just did the same old same old that any cis men did with just more sass ✨ to it?
Naaah im fine, im staying away from the whole world now 😭😂
My bf, I‘m super lucky with him, he’s loyal, supportive, caring, loves me for who I am, has zero toxic masculine traits and so on… I’m convinced he‘s an absolute exception and men like him are rare!
My son. I raised him right.
My good taste in men?
I recently joined a young adult youth. Usually we finish really late. A friend of mine walks me to my car each week, making sure I’m safe. It’s a little gesture but I really appreciate it.
My dad. The way he loves my mom, takes care of us and never asks for anything in return. It showed me that real, good men still exist.
Spending time offline
i saw a man walk past a homeless woman and he dropped bread in her cart without her knowing. if you didn’t look at his hands you wouldn’t notice it either he had such a straight face and he just walked past her and boom bread in her cart. i hope he is having a great life.
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Routinely interacting with decent and good men. Not generally entertaining bad and toxic men. And if I found myself with one actually taking responsibility for putting myself there, cutting him off and reflecting on why that ended up happening. Basically having standards, upping those standards and naturally not being a people pleasing doormat.
I know because my Dad is one.
I married one
A few yrs back I was taking my kids who were then 2 and 9 to a amusement and water park for younger kids and my mom and step dad were going to, but decided to take their Harley. I pulled into the gas station I have gone to since I was a teen and know all the workers at (all male. I’m only stating they are all male as it pertains to this question). I get along really well with all the workers, and they are all really nice to my kids when we go. Well, when I went to get gas, I ran into the store real quick to buy something to drink with my kids, and my mom and step had also pulled into the gas station to fill up. When me and the kids were on our way back to my car my stepdad whose a big biker guy, lots of tats, and just intimidating looking (but the bigfwst sweetheart and greatest stepdad I could ever ask for) comes over to ask me something and immediately 3 of the gas station. Workers run up to me and my kids and surround us in like a protection wall and asking my stepdad what he wants with me and the kids and if I was safe. I was shocked at first, but then realized they had never seen me with my stepdad and thought me and the kids were in trouble. My heart was warmed so much in that instance and after I quickly explained that it was my stepdad and then kept apologizing to my stepdad, I couldnt stop thanking them and gave them all the biggest hug for protecting me and my kids without hesitation when they thought we might be in troubl. My step dad also thanked all of them too.
Never in my life had I ever felt so safe and cared for. I’ve had a lot of bad stuff happen to me over the yrs (survivor of human trafficking and domestic abuse), and it’s just nice to know that there really are still nice men out there that are willing to help someone out when they need it (or think they need it) without wanting some type of sexual favor in return (yes had that happen to me more than once when I was being trafficked).
To this day, that is still the only gas station I will go to when Im in my area because of how much respect I have for all of the ppl that work there.