A cat gave birth in our yard a few months ago and was keeping some kittens there, and briefly left behind one kitten that we took care of for a day. My wife took a picture of me holding it and said it was the happiest she had ever seen me. I looked at the picture and she was right.
A short while after that my wife was binging the Sopranos off and on while breastfeeding our 2nd kid and I caught the first few episodes (I've already seen the series). I saw Tony with the ducks and thought "Oh, I get it now."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxXjhRHrs6k&t=16s&ab_channel=borko
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1) Amazing show and scene
2) To answer your question, weddings. I didnt even have that much fun at my own but Ive realized weddings and funerals are basically the only events you can reliably get most people close to you together in the same room. Weddings are much happier.
Kids. One of those things you have no idea Until you experience it. How it opens your eyes to so many things.
That I don’t need to care what others think of me and to live life to make myself happy. That may sound selfish but until I was in my 30’s I always focused on others and what my image was to them instead of living life to make myself happy.
This could mean I’d buy a cool car to make myself fit in or act a certain way to appease a woman etc.
In my 30’s I realized I may not really even know who “I” really am and stopped doing all that. I started living life for me and I’m so much happier being myself.
Exercise is not about losing weight; it’s about your mental health.
Diet is how you lose weight.
I guess I didn’t really “get” the common movie plotline where old friends end up back together doing something, because for a long time I had a robust social circle.
Now I realize it’s been a very long time since a singificant hangout with anyone I know. Many people have moved away and scattered and it barely occurs to me to reach out because I’m focused on my family and local area.
Staying calm.
I finally understood that you have no control over how someone acts, but you do have a control over how you react.
Makes life so much easier to just take a deep breath, evaluate the situation, and be rational.
That the dad in Beethoven was the reasonable one and his wife and kids were shitty.
That it takes purposeful effort to get and stay in shape. Got fat in my 20s. Lost all of it in my 30s cause I got serious about fitness and health. Diet also is like 75% of being healthy too
Any show or movie that depicts middle class family dynamics.
They argue and have so much difficulty because there’s a fundamental lacking in the ability to communicate difficult emotions, making others responsible for their own emotions, and all this other crap that no one really ever teaches us (unless you’re lucky lol).
Elvis was not a hero.
A fulfilling life can look dramatically different from a chill one.
the importance of connections.
I spent my entire life working my ass off academically and busted my ass in the workforce to no significant recognition. then I realized, it doesnt matter how intelligent you are. It matters how you connect with your superiors and colleagues that gets you the promotions. I’ve been told that before, but never seen it in fruition until recently.
Coworkers aren’t your friends. They don’t care once you leave, hell they probably don’t care when you are there. I was always the one doing right by my coworkers, trying to help out, making the sacrifices for everyone else. Trying to be fair. Trying to be friends. Taking on the hard work. It is like i never existed after. Like I always knew we weren’t friends but I didn’t think it was like that. I should have been there just for me and been more selfish. Could have made a lot more money, worked less hours and had less stress.
Now this is not saying you cannot be nice, care or be helpful at all. This is not saying you can never make a friend at work that transcends employment. It just you got to realize you are working for you and your family or whatever is important to you. That almost everything you do for someone else is not really appreciated and never reciprocated.
It was just a harsh lesson that everyone needs to learn.
That “why did the chicken cross the road? To get to the other side.” wasn’t just a smartass quip, but an alagory of death by suicide.
That just going with the flow and accepting whatever comes into your life will leave you emotionally wrecked down the line. And also that sometimes you need to fight for what you really want.
Love songs. The pain and the emotion that is REALLY behind those song.
When I was a kid I could sing a song because I knew the lyrics. When you’ve experienced true love and heartbreak over and over, when I sing a song I FEEL those actual emotions because I’ve lived them.
Singing a Jackson 5 song like “Never can say goodbye” just hits different.