If you could only have one for the rest of your life, which are you choosing: mind-blowing sex or soul-melting cuddles? Why?
July 22, 2025
If you could only have one for the rest of your life, which are you choosing: mind-blowing sex or soul-melting cuddles? Why?
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If I choose cuddles, do I still get satisfactory sex?
Mind blowing sex because that’s what I got right now and I’d be pretty sad without it lol. Our cuddles also feel amazing, BUT his body heat makes me overheat too quickly anyway so it’s not for very long
*laughs in asexual*
Mind blowing sex! I enjoy cuddling but nothing makes me feel calm and centered as much as an orgasm does. Plus the physical touch during sex is amazing.
Sex
I choose the sex and a big ass Alaskan bed because momma gets real hot and likes her space.
I mean, if either one of them is done right, then it very often turns into the other one.
I will have both, thank you so much!
I think I’d have to choose cuddles because I can get myself off but I can’t cuddle myself. However, I am on the ace spectrum so that probably influences my choice 😂
Mind blowing sex!
Mind blowing sex hands down. I get way too hot when cuddling for very long.
I’d pick cuddles over sex for sure
I’m going to cheat a bit by saying that cuddles are so much a part of sex for me and my husband that it wouldn’t count as ‘mind-blowing sex’ if it didn’t include a lot of affectionate non-sexual touch as well.
My first husband is asexual. Which is a very real and valid thing, I know other people who are asexual too, and he’s also a great person and still one of my best friends. As I had a difficult relationship with my sexuality when we first got together, and he wasn’t totally averse to sex anyway even if it’s never an intrinsic part of a romantic relationship for him or something he has an active desire for, I thought it would be an ok match. I grew and changed and got more comfortable with myself, our experiences together proved to him that he definitely *was* asexual, and so it just wasn’t the right match and became a platonic marriage (for other reasons too, not just sex by any means; we were young, first relationship for both of us, and neither of us really knew what we wanted).
Honestly I would rather be single for life than enter into a relationship where I knew from the start there would be either no sex or no cuddles. Sexual intimacy means too much to me emotionally, it’s not just a physical thing, but sex without other affectionate touch would make me feel used. Since I’m remarried though, if a medical issue or something meant my husband couldn’t have sex anymore, I most certainly wouldn’t leave him because we have such a great connection as a whole. I know his underlying desire for me in a sexual way would still be there, plus we could still cuddle and be generally affectionate. And there’s masturbation, which is not at all the same as sex, but would be good enough in a situation like that. But apart from that type of scenario, I’d rather just be single.
Mind blowing sex, for sure. Cuddling gets hot and uncomfortable sometimes but it’s always better after mind blowing sex.
The sex. Cuddling doesn’t have to move my soul for it to be effective. I’m cool with just being comfortable next to one another for a few then having my world rocked
Cuddles, no question
Mind-blowing sex. I don’t particularly like cuddles. I don’t like sex either but I probably would if it was mind-blowing
Cuddles!
Cuddles
Can I say no to both?
Cuddles absolutely cuddles
Cuddles because one day I’m gonna be too old to fuck regularly and I still want to be touched.
cuddles. i have periods of asexuality, and i know i can live very well without it.
regular cuddles are okay, but these sound better, and i need them more.
Cuddles 100% !
Petting, massages and cuddle waaaaay over sex 😩 !
Sex is overrated I think xD
Soul melting cuddles of course. Not even a question.
can i just have some ice cream?
Eternal cuddles.
Cuddles for sure. I prefer being able to be held and feeling secure in my husbands arms then sex since my sexdrive pretty much are dead anyway.
30 comments
If I choose cuddles, do I still get satisfactory sex?
Mind blowing sex because that’s what I got right now and I’d be pretty sad without it lol. Our cuddles also feel amazing, BUT his body heat makes me overheat too quickly anyway so it’s not for very long
*laughs in asexual*
Mind blowing sex! I enjoy cuddling but nothing makes me feel calm and centered as much as an orgasm does. Plus the physical touch during sex is amazing.
Sex
I choose the sex and a big ass Alaskan bed because momma gets real hot and likes her space.
I mean, if either one of them is done right, then it very often turns into the other one.
I will have both, thank you so much!
I think I’d have to choose cuddles because I can get myself off but I can’t cuddle myself. However, I am on the ace spectrum so that probably influences my choice 😂
Mind blowing sex!
Mind blowing sex hands down. I get way too hot when cuddling for very long.
I’d pick cuddles over sex for sure
I’m going to cheat a bit by saying that cuddles are so much a part of sex for me and my husband that it wouldn’t count as ‘mind-blowing sex’ if it didn’t include a lot of affectionate non-sexual touch as well.
My first husband is asexual. Which is a very real and valid thing, I know other people who are asexual too, and he’s also a great person and still one of my best friends. As I had a difficult relationship with my sexuality when we first got together, and he wasn’t totally averse to sex anyway even if it’s never an intrinsic part of a romantic relationship for him or something he has an active desire for, I thought it would be an ok match. I grew and changed and got more comfortable with myself, our experiences together proved to him that he definitely *was* asexual, and so it just wasn’t the right match and became a platonic marriage (for other reasons too, not just sex by any means; we were young, first relationship for both of us, and neither of us really knew what we wanted).
Honestly I would rather be single for life than enter into a relationship where I knew from the start there would be either no sex or no cuddles. Sexual intimacy means too much to me emotionally, it’s not just a physical thing, but sex without other affectionate touch would make me feel used. Since I’m remarried though, if a medical issue or something meant my husband couldn’t have sex anymore, I most certainly wouldn’t leave him because we have such a great connection as a whole. I know his underlying desire for me in a sexual way would still be there, plus we could still cuddle and be generally affectionate. And there’s masturbation, which is not at all the same as sex, but would be good enough in a situation like that. But apart from that type of scenario, I’d rather just be single.
Mind blowing sex, for sure. Cuddling gets hot and uncomfortable sometimes but it’s always better after mind blowing sex.
The sex. Cuddling doesn’t have to move my soul for it to be effective. I’m cool with just being comfortable next to one another for a few then having my world rocked
Cuddles, no question
Mind-blowing sex. I don’t particularly like cuddles. I don’t like sex either but I probably would if it was mind-blowing
Cuddles!
Cuddles
Can I say no to both?
Cuddles absolutely cuddles
Cuddles because one day I’m gonna be too old to fuck regularly and I still want to be touched.
cuddles. i have periods of asexuality, and i know i can live very well without it.
regular cuddles are okay, but these sound better, and i need them more.
Cuddles 100% !
Petting, massages and cuddle waaaaay over sex 😩 !
Sex is overrated I think xD
Soul melting cuddles of course. Not even a question.
can i just have some ice cream?
Eternal cuddles.
Cuddles for sure. I prefer being able to be held and feeling secure in my husbands arms then sex since my sexdrive pretty much are dead anyway.
Cuddles every time
Cuddles no question