How do you accept and move on from life things that are really upsetting/tough pills to swallow?
July 21, 2025
How do you accept and move on from life things that are really upsetting/tough pills to swallow?
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I kinda don’t lol. Usually what happens is I relapse into my ED and that ends up taking up all my energy to the point that I forget about the original trigger.
Time helps the most.
But learning from it. Life is a learning experience, if its something you can learn from. Giving yourself grace and how you can grow as a person and do better the next time.
Also, depending if its a major life altering event, you might not even get over the thing thats really upsetting. Its all about being able to still pick yourself up and continue on with life. Life is not easy, its hard. Really hard. Theres shit in your life that will happen where you go through major events where you might not ever get over. Therapy, taking it day by day. Try to do a little better than the last day. If its really really hard and you can’t cope, medication also really helps and theres no shame in it.
It will be okay.
Therapy. Support from people who have been through the same trauma as you. Remind yourself how fortunate you are when you feel sorry for yourself. Feel your feelings.
I do a lot of comfort eating to deal with my anger towards my abusive ex husband. I know because I have problems with food intolerances that this is a form of self harm. I have to accept that I’m trying my best.
Claim your time and happiness back. You can’t change some things that happened. But you can change how you spend time going forward and what you focus on. Process the grief, but keep moving and fill your life with new experiences and positive growth.
I got broken up with yesterday.
Since then, I’ve been drinking what I want, eating whenever I can, journaling, crying, using ChatGPT as a therapist, watching shows, …
Feel ALL the feelings. And just when it feels like it will never stop hurting, one day you’ll wake up and feel better. Be kind to yourself and find things that interest you. Spend time with friends. Go to therapy. Eat fruit.
I have seriously downgraded my expectations of others.
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After enough of them you realise – life goes on with or without your permission. You wake up in the morning and you’re still breathing, you still have to go to work, you still have to feed the cats…
It’s hard, it’s painful, but each day just keeps on coming. One day you wake up and it’s not the first thing you think about. You make it til lunchtime before it hits you. A little while later, you go a whole day.
You accept it because you have no choice. You move on with time, unless you choose to live there. One day at a time.
It’s life. Real life. The movies are fiction.
Time does heal. Think to yourself there’s always a tomorrow and you have one life to live. Even if it’s a lonely one. Never settle and just keep pushing forward and remember there’s too much more to be excited about. That bitte pill doesnt need to be bitter.
My dad says “que sara sara. What will be, will be.”
And while I used to find it cheesy I’m realizing now that really we have no control over anything but ourselves.
It’s a bit like a pendulum, you’ll be happy doing something and then remember That Horrible Thing & find yourself in tears.
I’m resolving old traumas by facing them, now that I have a better sense of who I am and what I want in life. When I feel confident enough I’ll go back into my heart and memories and revisit that tough time. Usually I find some kind of understanding, otherwise I leave it for another day. Sometimes it makes me sad for days, but I own my sadness and love myself through it.
Think of it as an onion – there are layers & layers & you’ll cry as you get through those. But you grow through what you go through.
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Time heals most things. That isn’t to say those things are no longer upsetting, but I learn to live with them and not let them take up so much space in my mind and life. There’s been a handful of times in my life where I truly felt like my world was ending and so genuinely unhappy in life. I’ve come to realize that if it wasn’t for me feeling those emotions and waves of anger and sadness that I wouldn’t be the person I am, with the heart that I have. Life will always press on, whether we want it to or not. I think it’s important for anyone and everyone to sit with their emotions and truly feel them for what they are. there will always be some form of growth within discomfort if you allow there to be.
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I kinda don’t lol. Usually what happens is I relapse into my ED and that ends up taking up all my energy to the point that I forget about the original trigger.
Time helps the most.
But learning from it. Life is a learning experience, if its something you can learn from. Giving yourself grace and how you can grow as a person and do better the next time.
Also, depending if its a major life altering event, you might not even get over the thing thats really upsetting. Its all about being able to still pick yourself up and continue on with life. Life is not easy, its hard. Really hard. Theres shit in your life that will happen where you go through major events where you might not ever get over. Therapy, taking it day by day. Try to do a little better than the last day. If its really really hard and you can’t cope, medication also really helps and theres no shame in it.
It will be okay.
Therapy. Support from people who have been through the same trauma as you. Remind yourself how fortunate you are when you feel sorry for yourself. Feel your feelings.
I do a lot of comfort eating to deal with my anger towards my abusive ex husband. I know because I have problems with food intolerances that this is a form of self harm. I have to accept that I’m trying my best.
Claim your time and happiness back. You can’t change some things that happened. But you can change how you spend time going forward and what you focus on. Process the grief, but keep moving and fill your life with new experiences and positive growth.
I got broken up with yesterday.
Since then, I’ve been drinking what I want, eating whenever I can, journaling, crying, using ChatGPT as a therapist, watching shows, …
Feel ALL the feelings. And just when it feels like it will never stop hurting, one day you’ll wake up and feel better. Be kind to yourself and find things that interest you. Spend time with friends. Go to therapy. Eat fruit.
I have seriously downgraded my expectations of others.
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After enough of them you realise – life goes on with or without your permission. You wake up in the morning and you’re still breathing, you still have to go to work, you still have to feed the cats…
It’s hard, it’s painful, but each day just keeps on coming. One day you wake up and it’s not the first thing you think about. You make it til lunchtime before it hits you. A little while later, you go a whole day.
You accept it because you have no choice. You move on with time, unless you choose to live there. One day at a time.
It’s life. Real life. The movies are fiction.
Time does heal. Think to yourself there’s always a tomorrow and you have one life to live. Even if it’s a lonely one. Never settle and just keep pushing forward and remember there’s too much more to be excited about. That bitte pill doesnt need to be bitter.
My dad says “que sara sara. What will be, will be.”
And while I used to find it cheesy I’m realizing now that really we have no control over anything but ourselves.
It’s a bit like a pendulum, you’ll be happy doing something and then remember That Horrible Thing & find yourself in tears.
I’m resolving old traumas by facing them, now that I have a better sense of who I am and what I want in life. When I feel confident enough I’ll go back into my heart and memories and revisit that tough time. Usually I find some kind of understanding, otherwise I leave it for another day. Sometimes it makes me sad for days, but I own my sadness and love myself through it.
Think of it as an onion – there are layers & layers & you’ll cry as you get through those. But you grow through what you go through.
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Time heals most things. That isn’t to say those things are no longer upsetting, but I learn to live with them and not let them take up so much space in my mind and life. There’s been a handful of times in my life where I truly felt like my world was ending and so genuinely unhappy in life. I’ve come to realize that if it wasn’t for me feeling those emotions and waves of anger and sadness that I wouldn’t be the person I am, with the heart that I have. Life will always press on, whether we want it to or not. I think it’s important for anyone and everyone to sit with their emotions and truly feel them for what they are. there will always be some form of growth within discomfort if you allow there to be.
Rejection is just redirection and/or protection.
Easier said than done..