Your partner writes erotica. How would you feel about that?
July 20, 2025
How would you feel if your date/partner told you they write erotica? Does the genre/niche of the erotica matter?
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as long as it’s good
Talked with someone who wrote it. It was especially fun when they took their skills and applied it to stories about us 🤭
As long as he reads it to me 🤤
Sounds interesting. I hope he’s a good writer.
Depends on the genre, if they enjoyed “dark romance” aka rape, I’d be out
i think most women would find that creative/interesting, a lot of erotic fanfiction and erotica in general is female-driven and can be wildly diverse lol. there’s mothman, scarecrow, many many other monster fantasies written by women
I would read it and hopefully get turned on 😈
Depends on how he writes it, male-written erotica can be so terrible at depicting how women think and act before and during sex (just visit any of the erotica subreddits for plenty of examples). If his female characters are just horny list of body parts existing only for the male character without any effort on his part except his listed dick size then I don’t think I could maintain interest in him.
I hope he writes it about me. And then explores it in reality!
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My husband writes for a living (he studied journalism, worked at a newspaper when he was young, spent many years doing communications stuff for the NHS, taught a university communications course, and has done radio and film scriptwriting with a friend) and also does it just as a hobby. He’s an excellent writer. He’s tried his hand at erotica a few times. I have no problem with it lol, it’s not like he’s sending it to other women.
Only if it’s for me. Wdym you’re trying to mentally stimulate and arouse random people?? (Yes, yes I am jealous, and no I will not change).
He does and I like it! Good for RP
I can’t see my husband doing this so I’d immediately be intrigued and want to read his work.
As long as he writes what he practices. We can’t be out here selling dreams.
I don’t see why it would be an issue. So what if erotica is the genre in which he found an audience? Writing is a creative activity. It’s not like authors act out their fictional works in real life. The genre they make money writing doesn’t signify anything about them personally. It wouldn’t be a problem if my partner wrote murder mysteries, action thrillers, or horror, so why would writing erotica be any different?
I ghost write smut. It never occurred to me that I might have to disclose it to a potential partner. No, I wouldn’t care less if he wrote erotica. My personal hard lines, for any genre would be gratuitous abuse or torture porn. If he’s all in writing humiliation kink, I’m out.
As long as it pays the bills
My boyfriend of and I are a writing/editing team of erotica. We brainstorm ideas, outline, go on long walks ironing out plot points, send each other ideas, etc etc etc— our relationship is all I’ve ever dreamed it would be 😂
I’d want to know how much comes from our sex life, though I would also want to know if there was anything in his writing that he wanted to try with me. I try to be as open as I can be. So long as it isn’t anything dangerous, I’m open to trying with the man I love and trust.
I would not have a problem
The content would matter to me—not just genre/niche but specific content—though I’d also try to keep in mind the difference between fantasy and reality and try to be open to talking through concerns before making any judgments.
Barring any dealbreakers there, I think I’d be glad they have a creative hobby and would hope it was a positive sign they approach sex with openness and imagination. And then I’d look forward to them putting that imagination to work!
As longs as it’s not “men writing women” type of shit, I’m okay with that.
I work as a translator and had my fair share of erotica, that’s not a big deal.
I wrote an erotica.
Hubby is my biggest fan 😁 and I think that is pretty cool.
Hopefully I’d get to proofread it before it’s published.
That would be amazing 🤩
It’s fair, I do adult entertainment in that form myself.
Plus, it’s writing, & I’d want to see what he created.
27 comments
as long as it’s good
Talked with someone who wrote it. It was especially fun when they took their skills and applied it to stories about us 🤭
As long as he reads it to me 🤤
Sounds interesting. I hope he’s a good writer.
Depends on the genre, if they enjoyed “dark romance” aka rape, I’d be out
i think most women would find that creative/interesting, a lot of erotic fanfiction and erotica in general is female-driven and can be wildly diverse lol. there’s mothman, scarecrow, many many other monster fantasies written by women
I would read it and hopefully get turned on 😈
Depends on how he writes it, male-written erotica can be so terrible at depicting how women think and act before and during sex (just visit any of the erotica subreddits for plenty of examples). If his female characters are just horny list of body parts existing only for the male character without any effort on his part except his listed dick size then I don’t think I could maintain interest in him.
I hope he writes it about me. And then explores it in reality!
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My husband writes for a living (he studied journalism, worked at a newspaper when he was young, spent many years doing communications stuff for the NHS, taught a university communications course, and has done radio and film scriptwriting with a friend) and also does it just as a hobby. He’s an excellent writer. He’s tried his hand at erotica a few times. I have no problem with it lol, it’s not like he’s sending it to other women.
Only if it’s for me. Wdym you’re trying to mentally stimulate and arouse random people?? (Yes, yes I am jealous, and no I will not change).
He does and I like it! Good for RP
I can’t see my husband doing this so I’d immediately be intrigued and want to read his work.
As long as he writes what he practices. We can’t be out here selling dreams.
I don’t see why it would be an issue. So what if erotica is the genre in which he found an audience? Writing is a creative activity. It’s not like authors act out their fictional works in real life. The genre they make money writing doesn’t signify anything about them personally. It wouldn’t be a problem if my partner wrote murder mysteries, action thrillers, or horror, so why would writing erotica be any different?
I ghost write smut. It never occurred to me that I might have to disclose it to a potential partner. No, I wouldn’t care less if he wrote erotica. My personal hard lines, for any genre would be gratuitous abuse or torture porn. If he’s all in writing humiliation kink, I’m out.
As long as it pays the bills
My boyfriend of and I are a writing/editing team of erotica. We brainstorm ideas, outline, go on long walks ironing out plot points, send each other ideas, etc etc etc— our relationship is all I’ve ever dreamed it would be 😂
I’d want to know how much comes from our sex life, though I would also want to know if there was anything in his writing that he wanted to try with me. I try to be as open as I can be. So long as it isn’t anything dangerous, I’m open to trying with the man I love and trust.
I would not have a problem
The content would matter to me—not just genre/niche but specific content—though I’d also try to keep in mind the difference between fantasy and reality and try to be open to talking through concerns before making any judgments.
Barring any dealbreakers there, I think I’d be glad they have a creative hobby and would hope it was a positive sign they approach sex with openness and imagination. And then I’d look forward to them putting that imagination to work!
As longs as it’s not “men writing women” type of shit, I’m okay with that.
I work as a translator and had my fair share of erotica, that’s not a big deal.
I wrote an erotica.
Hubby is my biggest fan 😁 and I think that is pretty cool.
Hopefully I’d get to proofread it before it’s published.
That would be amazing 🤩
It’s fair, I do adult entertainment in that form myself.
Plus, it’s writing, & I’d want to see what he created.