What’s a really weird thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner? Keep it unconventional
July 15, 2025
No obvious stuff like "communicative". The most abnormal must-haves in a partner for you
42 comments
I love when my husband added few pounds around his waist and lost his abs. I just find it sexy that there’s something to grab on now.
This might be conventional but clean ears. I always take a peek and I can easily disregard a guy I like if his ears are not clean because it’s such a small detail that can tell you A LOT about someone’s hygiene.
I love nervous men. Like, I love when men are obviously nervous to be around you, etc. I think it’s so cute
It’s of utmost importance that he eats quietly.
They must carry my books while I’m browsing. Peak romance.
Guys who have zero issue eating my leftovers.
I need someone who understands what is the correct music to play. I don’t want to wake up and listen to thrash, or death metal. That’s afternoon music.
I have to like the smell of their B.O.
Tiny ears. I hate large ears.
Animals need to naturally be drawn to them.
Good taste in music and frankly musicality.
I tried a sports person..it was awful. He couldn’t sing one bit
Plays video games – I am a gamer myself and dated a shocking amount of guys who did not play and it bummed me out. I prefer they do as well so that we both have mutual understanding of gaming in general, though they don’t need to play the same games I do
Has to love cats and not question me if I decide to bring home another cat from the shelter that day unannounced 😂
trimmed and neat nails. non-negotiable.
Agrees to maintaining separate residences.
They need to be at least a little more mean/assertive than me. I like having someone who will tell the waiter they got my order wrong (politely!) because I sure as hell won’t
this isnt that weird but if my boyfriend ever decides hes done scratching my back for forever, he will need to be removed😂😂🤣🤣🤣
My partners have to be nerdy about something. I love a special interest!
Must be good at board games. Or at least, good at understanding the rules to board games so I don’t feel like yanking my hair out every time we try a new one.
She needs to be into really weird shit and also want to be left alone a lot.
Clean bathroom, especially if they have long hair! I take good care of keeping hair out of the drain and I laser focus on stray hair on the ground/around kitchen sink and expect the same
Edit: maybe this isn’t very unconventional. I think my most unconventional idea is that he has to have hobbies/leave me alone sometimes lol I like do things by myself and even hang out with friends by myself. I don’t wanna be that friend that only does anything with her partner. He needs to be okay with that!
Not sure if this counts but similar sleeping schedule, don’t want to be waiting around all morning for them to get up at 2pm
will order the food AND share the food, all food is for sharing
I need to LOVE the smell of their armpits. I want to bask in their musk.
he needs to accept my love for Halloween
He must enjoy eating me out like it has to be an obsession and I mean both salad tossing and bean flicking eating. Only men like this have truly loved me lmaooooo
Don’t spend more than two hours a day shitting.
for me it is a driving license (I failed my driving exam 8 times and have given up)
I don’t know what’s conventional so I apologize in advance.
Critical thinking
(Has been mentioned) Quiet eating
But the most important one to me is:
Open-minded, like in you can tell him the most random thing, tell him about your most obscure hobby and he will listen and read everything you send him. And he won’t only listen, but even give his opinion and debate about it.
An extrovert who understands my introvert limits
Has to like biting. Neck, ears, other areas… Giving and receiving. Biting is so ingrained in my repertoire that if they’re not into it, we’re not going to make good bedfellows.
More of a want I guess but Someone who knows angles and can take good pictures!!
The amount of times I’ve asked a guy to take a picture of me (where to me it’s obvious how to ‘frame’ the photo) and it comes out poorly…like *sigh* thanks for trying I’ll just take a selfie 😒
Their sneeze can’t be obnoxious. Like a normal volume, not loud enough to hear across the house
Chest hair. And not just a sprinkling of it. Full on lumber sexual.
He has to be able to chew gum without me knowing he is chewing gum.
the weird thing is that he needs to be weird so we can be weird together………lol
Understand cPTSD and not treat me like an inferior person.
My partner cannot be picky. I’m a huge foodie and I need to be able to explore new foods with a partner.
Must sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door in case we have an intruder.
Understand my need for body doubling when doing chores! We can play music and make it fun. It’s my love language!
I need someone who knows how to navigate telling me when I’m wrong- like seriously tell me I’m wrong.
But you need to be smart enough that I believe you instead of feeling defensive.
I thought I just wanted smart, but smart is often unable to hear when they’re wrong, or they are defensive. I want a very precise mix of smart, humble, analytical and tactful- the first time I drop a hot take, if you can’t come at me, I’m not interested.
I need to be able to admire my partner. Truly esteem and be in awe over something that matters or of shared values. I can’t love a man I can’t admire.
42 comments
I love when my husband added few pounds around his waist and lost his abs. I just find it sexy that there’s something to grab on now.
This might be conventional but clean ears. I always take a peek and I can easily disregard a guy I like if his ears are not clean because it’s such a small detail that can tell you A LOT about someone’s hygiene.
I love nervous men. Like, I love when men are obviously nervous to be around you, etc. I think it’s so cute
It’s of utmost importance that he eats quietly.
They must carry my books while I’m browsing. Peak romance.
Guys who have zero issue eating my leftovers.
I need someone who understands what is the correct music to play. I don’t want to wake up and listen to thrash, or death metal. That’s afternoon music.
I have to like the smell of their B.O.
Tiny ears. I hate large ears.
Animals need to naturally be drawn to them.
Good taste in music and frankly musicality.
I tried a sports person..it was awful. He couldn’t sing one bit
Plays video games – I am a gamer myself and dated a shocking amount of guys who did not play and it bummed me out. I prefer they do as well so that we both have mutual understanding of gaming in general, though they don’t need to play the same games I do
Has to love cats and not question me if I decide to bring home another cat from the shelter that day unannounced 😂
trimmed and neat nails. non-negotiable.
Agrees to maintaining separate residences.
They need to be at least a little more mean/assertive than me. I like having someone who will tell the waiter they got my order wrong (politely!) because I sure as hell won’t
this isnt that weird but if my boyfriend ever decides hes done scratching my back for forever, he will need to be removed😂😂🤣🤣🤣
My partners have to be nerdy about something. I love a special interest!
Must be good at board games. Or at least, good at understanding the rules to board games so I don’t feel like yanking my hair out every time we try a new one.
She needs to be into really weird shit and also want to be left alone a lot.
Clean bathroom, especially if they have long hair! I take good care of keeping hair out of the drain and I laser focus on stray hair on the ground/around kitchen sink and expect the same
Edit: maybe this isn’t very unconventional. I think my most unconventional idea is that he has to have hobbies/leave me alone sometimes lol I like do things by myself and even hang out with friends by myself. I don’t wanna be that friend that only does anything with her partner. He needs to be okay with that!
Not sure if this counts but similar sleeping schedule, don’t want to be waiting around all morning for them to get up at 2pm
will order the food AND share the food, all food is for sharing
I need to LOVE the smell of their armpits. I want to bask in their musk.
he needs to accept my love for Halloween
He must enjoy eating me out like it has to be an obsession and I mean both salad tossing and bean flicking eating. Only men like this have truly loved me lmaooooo
Don’t spend more than two hours a day shitting.
for me it is a driving license (I failed my driving exam 8 times and have given up)
I don’t know what’s conventional so I apologize in advance.
Critical thinking
(Has been mentioned) Quiet eating
But the most important one to me is:
Open-minded, like in you can tell him the most random thing, tell him about your most obscure hobby and he will listen and read everything you send him. And he won’t only listen, but even give his opinion and debate about it.
An extrovert who understands my introvert limits
Has to like biting. Neck, ears, other areas… Giving and receiving. Biting is so ingrained in my repertoire that if they’re not into it, we’re not going to make good bedfellows.
More of a want I guess but Someone who knows angles and can take good pictures!!
The amount of times I’ve asked a guy to take a picture of me (where to me it’s obvious how to ‘frame’ the photo) and it comes out poorly…like *sigh* thanks for trying I’ll just take a selfie 😒
Their sneeze can’t be obnoxious. Like a normal volume, not loud enough to hear across the house
Chest hair. And not just a sprinkling of it. Full on lumber sexual.
He has to be able to chew gum without me knowing he is chewing gum.
the weird thing is that he needs to be weird so we can be weird together………lol
Understand cPTSD and not treat me like an inferior person.
My partner cannot be picky. I’m a huge foodie and I need to be able to explore new foods with a partner.
Must sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door in case we have an intruder.
Understand my need for body doubling when doing chores! We can play music and make it fun. It’s my love language!
I need someone who knows how to navigate telling me when I’m wrong- like seriously tell me I’m wrong.
But you need to be smart enough that I believe you instead of feeling defensive.
I thought I just wanted smart, but smart is often unable to hear when they’re wrong, or they are defensive. I want a very precise mix of smart, humble, analytical and tactful- the first time I drop a hot take, if you can’t come at me, I’m not interested.
I need to be able to admire my partner. Truly esteem and be in awe over something that matters or of shared values. I can’t love a man I can’t admire.