What does emotional intimacy in a relationship look like to you?
July 13, 2025
How often is enough and what if it’s not being met?
6 comments
Talking about emotional things or things that you’re not able to talk about with other people. It’s being vulnerable and sharing your actual feelings, even when they aren’t good.
I feel like it needs to happen… monthly? Weekly? Just depends. If my partner and I aren’t engaging intimately… it needs to be addressed after a couple months.
Im in love with my partner and we were friends for 5 years and known each other for 9. Dating for 2. We never had enough emotional intimacy until recently. I began asking for nice gestures and compliments. It wasnt enough. Touching that was non sexual. Still wasnt enough. More vocal love. Still wasnt enough. Lol every single day he makes effort for more and more of the “small things” he is learning from me asking for things directly. Hand over hand on the physical aspect and even watching movies. Im watching our relationship blossom and its amazing. He didn’t grow up in an affectionate home so its all a learning process. Im just glad I spoke up continuously and yes it was hardddd, tears and arguing from him “I thought I was doing good” but I had to keep reminding him that good is just the beginning and he will unlock parts of me more and more with the emotional intimacy.
Again it largely depends on the emotional bandwidth of the partners involved. For me personally, I would like to be comforted when going through something difficult and being offered practical solutions/explanations for what went wrong or what could have been done better. Overall, everyone needs a safe space in their partner but to require that of them all the time and not being able to self-soothe is also not healthy.
I think getting excited about something together 🙂
For me it’s the ultimate trust and respect we have for each other. We don’t judge each other. We can share everything with each other – being vulnerable with each other.
6 comments
Talking about emotional things or things that you’re not able to talk about with other people. It’s being vulnerable and sharing your actual feelings, even when they aren’t good.
I feel like it needs to happen… monthly? Weekly? Just depends. If my partner and I aren’t engaging intimately… it needs to be addressed after a couple months.
Im in love with my partner and we were friends for 5 years and known each other for 9. Dating for 2. We never had enough emotional intimacy until recently. I began asking for nice gestures and compliments. It wasnt enough. Touching that was non sexual. Still wasnt enough. More vocal love. Still wasnt enough. Lol every single day he makes effort for more and more of the “small things” he is learning from me asking for things directly. Hand over hand on the physical aspect and even watching movies. Im watching our relationship blossom and its amazing. He didn’t grow up in an affectionate home so its all a learning process. Im just glad I spoke up continuously and yes it was hardddd, tears and arguing from him “I thought I was doing good” but I had to keep reminding him that good is just the beginning and he will unlock parts of me more and more with the emotional intimacy.
Again it largely depends on the emotional bandwidth of the partners involved. For me personally, I would like to be comforted when going through something difficult and being offered practical solutions/explanations for what went wrong or what could have been done better. Overall, everyone needs a safe space in their partner but to require that of them all the time and not being able to self-soothe is also not healthy.
I think getting excited about something together 🙂
For me it’s the ultimate trust and respect we have for each other. We don’t judge each other. We can share everything with each other – being vulnerable with each other.
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