What happened on a date that made you leave in the middle of it?
July 11, 2025
What happened on a date that made you leave in the middle of it?
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I’ve never left, but I’ve asked them to leave. One time this guy was eating me out (it was the first time I’d met him – it was just a hook up), it was so bad (and I gave him plenty of time to try to figure out what he was doing) so i just asked him to stop and to leave. I remember when he was walking out the door he asked when he could see me again, and I said probably never. The second time, this guy I had been friends with for a while came over for the first time. He was so insistent on kissing me, it made me uncomfortable. I told him to call an uber and leave. I blocked him right after. I’m not one to stay in an uncomfortable or unpleasant situation.
I once left in the middle of a date because the skinny guy told me (in complete seriousness) that he didn’t believe in washing your hands after using the bathroom because “germs strengthen your immune system.”
Spoiler: it didn’t strengthen anything, not even my interest.
I paid my share, faked an urgent call and went straight to wash my soul. 🚪🧼😂
Wouldn’t stop staring at my chest. Uncomfortable maxxxxx.
I called him out on it but he feigned ignorance. I decided to end the date early by calling for the bill, paid my half, and walked out.
To respond to my own post: one time a guy from a dating app asked to take me out and I agreed. Key word here is “I would love to take you out to dinner” but I’m not a sit down on the first date girl so I suggested we grab food and take it to the beach. We get to the spot and he payed for himself at the counter and then motions to me to order. Idk if this is an unpopular opinion or not, but if YOU ask ME to dinner, especially saying I would love to TAKE YOU OUT I expect you to pay! So red flag one. Then the conversation was bone dry and miserable. So much so that there was a pause in the convo and he says “so…what do you think we’ll talk about next” and I just said “honestly nothing. I’m not enjoying myself I think I’m gonna go” and then left
The person (another woman actually, I’m bi) smelled like absolute doo doo ass. It was February in Canada, so not like it was excessively hot out either. If you’re going on a date pleeeease shower omg
I was at this really loud, bustling Thai restaurant, sitting across from my date… and somehow, even with all the noise, I could still hear him chewing. It was so obnoxious. I ended up making some dumb excuse and just left.
His MOM sat down and hung out with us
He got dropped off by his Mom and she ended up getting out and having lunch with us, it was so awkward and they were creepily very close with each other, holding hands and kissing each other’s cheeks and shit
Bailed on that fast.
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First date, we had shared 1 round of beers, and in the span of that drink, he became belligerent. Realised he had pregamed our date and it was just hitting him.
He also had a massive open wound on his face. And normally I’m not one to pry about illness or injury, finding it rude, but with his other behaviours, I didn’t care. His story was so ridiculously over the top that all it signalled to me was that he’s a massive drunken idiot and probably dabbled in other stuff as well.
Luckily, we were at my favourite first date spot so I knew where to leave out the back. And high-fived my favourite bartender on the way out.
He told me that I reminded him of someone. Then told me that person was dead. He had sought out a woman that looked really similar to a dead woman he’d had an affair with. And that’s not the worst part of the the story.
I asked a blind date to pull over and I got out of his car. We had gone to play mini putt, I lost, which was fine, but he kept calling me a loser. For at least an hour and a half, at every opportunity he could. It was such a turn off, I wasn’t interested in wasting the rest of my Saturday night with him, or ever seeing him again.
Whether in the middle of the date, or (more often) in online conversations before meeting, I would always end the conversation if he brought up Anime, or Kpop, or whatever else outed him as an Asian fetishist.
I’m more than my complexion and I’m nothing like their stereotypes.
I’ve never left in the middle of a date. But I have this super cool technique where whenever I make a first date with a person I don’t already know from a platonic context, I schedule it for coffee in the early evening. You head to a cute coffee shop after work, have a cappuccino and some chitchat. And oh, wait, this place closes in an hour? I didn’t realize. If it’s a good date, you go for a walk after and do something else, and if it’s a bad date you go “Oh, well, let’s set up another date for another time, it was good to meet you, bye!”
Didn’t walk out, but necked my hot coffee and said it was time to go.
When we were in the talking stage he told me he drove, had his own place (this was important cos I’d never have brought a bloke back to my house where my children lived) and told a bunch of other lies.
Met on the date and he said ‘I don’t drive, I smoke weed, I live with my mam and step dad, my mam’s really strict, I’m not even allowed a tele in my room.’ This was a bloke in his 30’s.
Then the whole time acted all arrogant as if I should be lucky to be in his presence and slumped down in his chair like a naughty kid. It was just weird, I was so embarrassed to be in public with him. Now I’m thinking he’d probably read too much red pill shite about how to treat a woman bad to keep them interested.
(dont judge me) but I invited this guy who was super into me to a kink show/party. it seemed to be going well, he was also into that kind of thing. I went to the bathroom like only 10-15 mins in and came back upstairs to him spanking this other random person he knew lmao I just went back downstairs and left and just lost all interest 😂
He showed up high af on some pills after stressful day of work. I asked him if he was thinking of hurting himself and if he needed an ambulance and he said no. And I said I’m leaving goodbye
Never went on one
He asked .. can he suck my toes, and proceed to pull my chair. ( long time ago tho, I hope he’s doing well sucking toes )
He leaned in seductively and *meowed*. Not joking. Like a full-on “meow 😏” with eye contact. I blinked, grabbed my purse, and moonwalked out of there.
He told me he loved me. It was our first date; we knew each other for about a week. I went to the bathroom and texted my sister to call me with an emergency.
A group of girls walks in and sits down next to us toward the end of our ~5 hour hangout. Felt like we were having a great time up until the last ~20 minutes of the date.
She pointed out a girl in that group and began raving over how attractive she was and how she wanted to talk to her to get her number. I had to use the bathroom and this was the perfect time to do so.
I go to the bathroom, come back, I sit down, they’re talking for another 30-45 seconds. Instantly turned me off and my date noticed that. She didn’t like that I was turned off, she ended up insulting me, which caused me to get up and leave and then she threw her drink on me as I was leaving.
Stay away from Carmelo’s!
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He insulted my vagina mid-bang, lol.
He seemed “off” and I couldn’t pinpoint why until he admitted he was SEVEN drinks in, even before we met up at 7:30. When I was obviously appalled, he started raising his hands up, in a measuring motion saying “why would I put you up HERE, when I don’t even know you? Why would I put you on a pedestal??” I grabbed my jacket and left and heard someone in the very small pub we were in yell “ooooooh, she’s leaving!” Which caused everyone to look up. Embarrassing for me but probably much more for him, who had to pay the tab and deal with the stares and aftermath. (Edit – typos)
He mentioned that he was going to start school to become a minister.
Don’t you dare judge me. (Though he probably did 😀)
Excessive drinking. I don’t drink, I don’t mind if other people have a drink or 2, but after 5 I’m just going to go.
Dude was about a decade older than me (I was 21) started creeping me out so I texted my fwb to come save me and he did, he met up with us at the bar and then I went home with him. Not exactly my proudest moment hahaha but looking back I was smart to do that because guy actually turned out to be a creep. I always appreciated my fwb doing that for me, he’d met the guy before and also thought he was weird.
Started the date telling me about how he was having a bad day – had just talked to his lawyer about his business. Ok no prob.
We order food and he tells me that actually the talk with the lawyer was about a SA case out of state. “No one told her to go to my hotel room.”
Literally 15 minutes into the date. I just stood up and said, “I’m gonna go.” And left.
I got home, went to block him, and he had already blocked me. Great! He messaged me a few months later asking if I wanted to meet up. (Facepalm)
He told me he believed the Bible was true
He drove to the apartment i was staying out to pick me up and told me that he packed a suitcase to stay with me overnight. Lol…. we hadnt even met or gone on a first date yet.
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I’ve never left, but I’ve asked them to leave. One time this guy was eating me out (it was the first time I’d met him – it was just a hook up), it was so bad (and I gave him plenty of time to try to figure out what he was doing) so i just asked him to stop and to leave. I remember when he was walking out the door he asked when he could see me again, and I said probably never. The second time, this guy I had been friends with for a while came over for the first time. He was so insistent on kissing me, it made me uncomfortable. I told him to call an uber and leave. I blocked him right after. I’m not one to stay in an uncomfortable or unpleasant situation.
I once left in the middle of a date because the skinny guy told me (in complete seriousness) that he didn’t believe in washing your hands after using the bathroom because “germs strengthen your immune system.”
Spoiler: it didn’t strengthen anything, not even my interest.
I paid my share, faked an urgent call and went straight to wash my soul. 🚪🧼😂
Wouldn’t stop staring at my chest. Uncomfortable maxxxxx.
I called him out on it but he feigned ignorance. I decided to end the date early by calling for the bill, paid my half, and walked out.
To respond to my own post: one time a guy from a dating app asked to take me out and I agreed. Key word here is “I would love to take you out to dinner” but I’m not a sit down on the first date girl so I suggested we grab food and take it to the beach. We get to the spot and he payed for himself at the counter and then motions to me to order. Idk if this is an unpopular opinion or not, but if YOU ask ME to dinner, especially saying I would love to TAKE YOU OUT I expect you to pay! So red flag one. Then the conversation was bone dry and miserable. So much so that there was a pause in the convo and he says “so…what do you think we’ll talk about next” and I just said “honestly nothing. I’m not enjoying myself I think I’m gonna go” and then left
The person (another woman actually, I’m bi) smelled like absolute doo doo ass. It was February in Canada, so not like it was excessively hot out either. If you’re going on a date pleeeease shower omg
I was at this really loud, bustling Thai restaurant, sitting across from my date… and somehow, even with all the noise, I could still hear him chewing. It was so obnoxious. I ended up making some dumb excuse and just left.
His MOM sat down and hung out with us
He got dropped off by his Mom and she ended up getting out and having lunch with us, it was so awkward and they were creepily very close with each other, holding hands and kissing each other’s cheeks and shit
Bailed on that fast.
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First date, we had shared 1 round of beers, and in the span of that drink, he became belligerent. Realised he had pregamed our date and it was just hitting him.
He also had a massive open wound on his face. And normally I’m not one to pry about illness or injury, finding it rude, but with his other behaviours, I didn’t care. His story was so ridiculously over the top that all it signalled to me was that he’s a massive drunken idiot and probably dabbled in other stuff as well.
Luckily, we were at my favourite first date spot so I knew where to leave out the back. And high-fived my favourite bartender on the way out.
He told me that I reminded him of someone. Then told me that person was dead. He had sought out a woman that looked really similar to a dead woman he’d had an affair with. And that’s not the worst part of the the story.
I asked a blind date to pull over and I got out of his car. We had gone to play mini putt, I lost, which was fine, but he kept calling me a loser. For at least an hour and a half, at every opportunity he could. It was such a turn off, I wasn’t interested in wasting the rest of my Saturday night with him, or ever seeing him again.
Whether in the middle of the date, or (more often) in online conversations before meeting, I would always end the conversation if he brought up Anime, or Kpop, or whatever else outed him as an Asian fetishist.
I’m more than my complexion and I’m nothing like their stereotypes.
I’ve never left in the middle of a date. But I have this super cool technique where whenever I make a first date with a person I don’t already know from a platonic context, I schedule it for coffee in the early evening. You head to a cute coffee shop after work, have a cappuccino and some chitchat. And oh, wait, this place closes in an hour? I didn’t realize. If it’s a good date, you go for a walk after and do something else, and if it’s a bad date you go “Oh, well, let’s set up another date for another time, it was good to meet you, bye!”
Didn’t walk out, but necked my hot coffee and said it was time to go.
When we were in the talking stage he told me he drove, had his own place (this was important cos I’d never have brought a bloke back to my house where my children lived) and told a bunch of other lies.
Met on the date and he said ‘I don’t drive, I smoke weed, I live with my mam and step dad, my mam’s really strict, I’m not even allowed a tele in my room.’ This was a bloke in his 30’s.
Then the whole time acted all arrogant as if I should be lucky to be in his presence and slumped down in his chair like a naughty kid. It was just weird, I was so embarrassed to be in public with him. Now I’m thinking he’d probably read too much red pill shite about how to treat a woman bad to keep them interested.
(dont judge me) but I invited this guy who was super into me to a kink show/party. it seemed to be going well, he was also into that kind of thing. I went to the bathroom like only 10-15 mins in and came back upstairs to him spanking this other random person he knew lmao I just went back downstairs and left and just lost all interest 😂
He showed up high af on some pills after stressful day of work. I asked him if he was thinking of hurting himself and if he needed an ambulance and he said no. And I said I’m leaving goodbye
Never went on one
He asked .. can he suck my toes, and proceed to pull my chair. ( long time ago tho, I hope he’s doing well sucking toes )
He leaned in seductively and *meowed*. Not joking. Like a full-on “meow 😏” with eye contact. I blinked, grabbed my purse, and moonwalked out of there.
He told me he loved me. It was our first date; we knew each other for about a week. I went to the bathroom and texted my sister to call me with an emergency.
A group of girls walks in and sits down next to us toward the end of our ~5 hour hangout. Felt like we were having a great time up until the last ~20 minutes of the date.
She pointed out a girl in that group and began raving over how attractive she was and how she wanted to talk to her to get her number. I had to use the bathroom and this was the perfect time to do so.
I go to the bathroom, come back, I sit down, they’re talking for another 30-45 seconds. Instantly turned me off and my date noticed that. She didn’t like that I was turned off, she ended up insulting me, which caused me to get up and leave and then she threw her drink on me as I was leaving.
Stay away from Carmelo’s!
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He insulted my vagina mid-bang, lol.
He seemed “off” and I couldn’t pinpoint why until he admitted he was SEVEN drinks in, even before we met up at 7:30. When I was obviously appalled, he started raising his hands up, in a measuring motion saying “why would I put you up HERE, when I don’t even know you? Why would I put you on a pedestal??” I grabbed my jacket and left and heard someone in the very small pub we were in yell “ooooooh, she’s leaving!” Which caused everyone to look up. Embarrassing for me but probably much more for him, who had to pay the tab and deal with the stares and aftermath. (Edit – typos)
He mentioned that he was going to start school to become a minister.
Don’t you dare judge me. (Though he probably did 😀)
Excessive drinking. I don’t drink, I don’t mind if other people have a drink or 2, but after 5 I’m just going to go.
Dude was about a decade older than me (I was 21) started creeping me out so I texted my fwb to come save me and he did, he met up with us at the bar and then I went home with him. Not exactly my proudest moment hahaha but looking back I was smart to do that because guy actually turned out to be a creep. I always appreciated my fwb doing that for me, he’d met the guy before and also thought he was weird.
Started the date telling me about how he was having a bad day – had just talked to his lawyer about his business. Ok no prob.
We order food and he tells me that actually the talk with the lawyer was about a SA case out of state. “No one told her to go to my hotel room.”
Literally 15 minutes into the date. I just stood up and said, “I’m gonna go.” And left.
I got home, went to block him, and he had already blocked me. Great! He messaged me a few months later asking if I wanted to meet up. (Facepalm)
He told me he believed the Bible was true
He drove to the apartment i was staying out to pick me up and told me that he packed a suitcase to stay with me overnight. Lol…. we hadnt even met or gone on a first date yet.
Unvaccinated status disclosed.
Fuck you. Asshole.