How did you walk away from someone you didn’t want to end things with?
July 11, 2025
How did you walk away from someone you didn’t want to end things with?
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I started focusing on my personal goals and growth.
I reconnected with people who actually did and still keep making me feel heard and loved. The more i gave my time to them, the more i also wanted to focus on me and doing things i enjoyed by myself too.
I allowed myself to hate them with extremely deep rage. Took the longing away. Also, I had a daughter I needed to protect. She has always come first.
I kind of disappeared. He knew I was moving out but he started trying to get violent so I sped up the process. I moved out early. So he came home to me and all my things gone. By then I had changed all my info and hadn’t told anyone where I lived. There was like two more weeks in the lease and the rent and bills had been paid for that month. I had gone and personally delivered my keys to the leasing company. I let my friends in the office know that if anyone called looking for me to tell them I was no longer there. When he started calling/ txt I didn’t answer just sent a picture of the keys in the leasing office. And I blocked him, his family and friends in everything. I seriously didn’t think I was going to leave him. He kept trying to guilt trip me into letting him stay with me because he hadn’t looked for a new place. And he just kept trying to make me feel crazy and convince me I owed him. I didn’t take the bait. Eventually he gave up creating new phone numbers and emails to try to reach me.
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I made plans for my own next steps in life and started working through them.
„To be seen is to be known is to be loved“ this sentence right there woke me up from the fantasy of our relationship to the actual reality of two people not knowing much about each other.
i had to treat it like grief. no closure, just waves of sadness and healing. some days i still miss who they were to me.. but i don’t miss how small i felt trying to keep them.
My body was showing me signs that I should stop talking to him. I walked away and dealt with depression. This happened 2 years ago and he contacted a few months ago and we are back together
I had to remind myself love isn’t enough if the basics arent there – trust, respect, shared goals. Hardest choice I’ve ever made…
I ripped off the bandaid, dumped them, and I told myself over and over, “one day I will meet someone who makes me glad I made this choice.” I was right.
I focused on myself by working out, hanging out with friends and family. I also was working late also.
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Accepted the fact that our values are no longer aligned and that I have to let him go. No words. Just disappeared in silence
Finally told myself the truth: for some people it’s just a game. They were never serious. There’s no way they loved me like I loved them, because I would have never, ever hurt them the way they hurt me.
When the thought of staying started to mess with my self perception, I refused to let a man affect everything I had worked so hard to build so I took my power back and ended things. It was brave and empowering.
I left town. I knew he wouldn’t leave me, he was loyal but didn’t love me. I loved him but felt I deserved more. I had to split. The distance helped me shape a new life without him.
Say the things you need to say. How much you love them. How much it hurts. Ask your final questions to get closure if possible. Then move out and cauterize the wound. Go low to no contact, cry, be messy in front of your friends and family, keep going to work, invest in your health, and take it a day at a time.
Don’t let a lost love torpedo everything else. But let yourself feel the grief. At first it will be massive and incomprehensible. It will get smaller.
Still haven’t. sure we’re seperate but I think of him all day every day and I miss him so much. its even worse that its on good terms. technically I could text him and we could chat if I wanted.. but he deserves space and peace and I dont deserve to be waiting for him forever.
Crying
I wasn’t happy about going NC with my brother, but, at the end of the day, he’s a drug addict and an alcoholic with a serious case of Peter Pan Syndrome. His vices are his priority and there’s nothing that I can do about that. He’s not going to change his ways and I was tired of being used and treated like garbage. As far as walking away from him is concerned, I did what I felt like I had to do.
had to remind myself that love isn’t enough if I’m the only one trying. It hurt like hell, but peace is better than confusion
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I started focusing on my personal goals and growth.
I reconnected with people who actually did and still keep making me feel heard and loved. The more i gave my time to them, the more i also wanted to focus on me and doing things i enjoyed by myself too.
I allowed myself to hate them with extremely deep rage. Took the longing away. Also, I had a daughter I needed to protect. She has always come first.
I kind of disappeared. He knew I was moving out but he started trying to get violent so I sped up the process. I moved out early. So he came home to me and all my things gone. By then I had changed all my info and hadn’t told anyone where I lived. There was like two more weeks in the lease and the rent and bills had been paid for that month. I had gone and personally delivered my keys to the leasing company. I let my friends in the office know that if anyone called looking for me to tell them I was no longer there. When he started calling/ txt I didn’t answer just sent a picture of the keys in the leasing office. And I blocked him, his family and friends in everything. I seriously didn’t think I was going to leave him. He kept trying to guilt trip me into letting him stay with me because he hadn’t looked for a new place. And he just kept trying to make me feel crazy and convince me I owed him. I didn’t take the bait. Eventually he gave up creating new phone numbers and emails to try to reach me.
[removed]
I made plans for my own next steps in life and started working through them.
„To be seen is to be known is to be loved“ this sentence right there woke me up from the fantasy of our relationship to the actual reality of two people not knowing much about each other.
i had to treat it like grief. no closure, just waves of sadness and healing. some days i still miss who they were to me.. but i don’t miss how small i felt trying to keep them.
My body was showing me signs that I should stop talking to him. I walked away and dealt with depression. This happened 2 years ago and he contacted a few months ago and we are back together
I had to remind myself love isn’t enough if the basics arent there – trust, respect, shared goals. Hardest choice I’ve ever made…
I ripped off the bandaid, dumped them, and I told myself over and over, “one day I will meet someone who makes me glad I made this choice.” I was right.
I focused on myself by working out, hanging out with friends and family. I also was working late also.
[removed]
Accepted the fact that our values are no longer aligned and that I have to let him go. No words. Just disappeared in silence
Finally told myself the truth: for some people it’s just a game. They were never serious. There’s no way they loved me like I loved them, because I would have never, ever hurt them the way they hurt me.
When the thought of staying started to mess with my self perception, I refused to let a man affect everything I had worked so hard to build so I took my power back and ended things. It was brave and empowering.
I left town. I knew he wouldn’t leave me, he was loyal but didn’t love me. I loved him but felt I deserved more. I had to split. The distance helped me shape a new life without him.
Say the things you need to say. How much you love them. How much it hurts. Ask your final questions to get closure if possible. Then move out and cauterize the wound. Go low to no contact, cry, be messy in front of your friends and family, keep going to work, invest in your health, and take it a day at a time.
Don’t let a lost love torpedo everything else. But let yourself feel the grief. At first it will be massive and incomprehensible. It will get smaller.
Still haven’t. sure we’re seperate but I think of him all day every day and I miss him so much. its even worse that its on good terms. technically I could text him and we could chat if I wanted.. but he deserves space and peace and I dont deserve to be waiting for him forever.
Crying
I wasn’t happy about going NC with my brother, but, at the end of the day, he’s a drug addict and an alcoholic with a serious case of Peter Pan Syndrome. His vices are his priority and there’s nothing that I can do about that. He’s not going to change his ways and I was tired of being used and treated like garbage. As far as walking away from him is concerned, I did what I felt like I had to do.
had to remind myself that love isn’t enough if I’m the only one trying. It hurt like hell, but peace is better than confusion