What is a secret for better sex that you would want every person to know?
July 6, 2025
What is a secret for better sex that you would want every person to know?
32 comments
If you are a woman… Get older 😂
Mutual love with your partner 😊 and a vibrator lol
Vibrators/toys should absolutely be essential. I was never able to enjoy sex until a partner brought a bullet to the bedroom. Holy shit it changed my life.
I don’t even want this to be a secret, spread the word around! Save a life!
Edit: Any requests to chat will be ignored, thank you, have a nice day 🌸
communication
Don’t fake orgasm or enjoyment. Be honest, be vocal.
Lube!
As I grew older, things didn’t get as wet as I’d like. This would cause a fair amount of bleeding (though no pain) my partner suggested lube and honestly I felt slighted and defeated at the thought of it. We tried it with lube and it was a huge game changer for us.
Pillow under lower back.
*Communication.*
Telling someone when they’re doing something you like, when they could change something to make it feel better for you, when you would prefer to do something else or when they’re stretching into territory that makes you uncomfortable.
Also just making sure someone feels like they’re *performing well*, or so to speak, because those kinds of ego boosts can really help in the bedroom.
Stop watching porn and it will become way more intense.
Explore explore explore have the mindset of. I’ll try anything once kind of thing
Kegels. And getting older.
Start with a person you love and a sensual massage. 10/10 recommend
[removed]
Learn to lick the kitty
Don’t treat foreplay as something that happens before the „actual sex“. Foreplay is already sex, so take as much time as you want and enjoy it. There is no time limit for foreplay even if porn or some guy makes you feel like there is.
Enthusiasm…
Know what you like and be able to ask for that
Eye contact. When you’re with someone you trust, it can take the experience to a whole other level of intimacy.
Tense your vaginal muscles during sex and it will help you climax easier. 😊
Foreplay isn’t the trailer. It’s part of the damn movie. Stop fast-forwarding
Do it with someone you are madly in love with and have been with for a while.
Remember the brain is the most powerful sex organ and skin is the largest sex organ.
Have it with someone you are actually attracted.
Brutally honest Communication, trust and tons of foreplay
Communication, Communication, Communication
Everyone is different. The only way to get better is to communicate and take that direction well.
True and tried: slow down and deepen breathing 10 seconds or so before you come. Try it and let us know.
Enthusiasm and lube.
It’s more than ok to laugh. Sex doesn’t have to be serious.
You should spend as much time, if not more, on foreplay than actual PIV sex.
I think a general point, mostly for men, is to be more patient. Take everything just a little bit slower. Actually listen to your partner and unless they’re telling you to stop, feel free to keep doing exactly what youre doing: same pace, same effort. You don’t have to be flipping positions and upping the ante constantly. Take time to enjoy what feels good.
Don’t have sex in a linear heteronorm way. Don’t treat oral and masturbation as foreplay only. Switch it up from oral-PIV-mutual masturbation-PIV-oral. It will help men last longer and women come more!
I’m sure this would work for either party. I spend the day building up my wife. In the morning, I whisper a subtle you are beautiful in her ear. By lunch I’ll push her against the wall. Grab her firmly and whisper I want you. By dinner, I’ll find a secluded spot away from the kids. Wrap my hand gently around her neck and say something like you’re mine tonight.
32 comments
If you are a woman… Get older 😂
Mutual love with your partner 😊 and a vibrator lol
Vibrators/toys should absolutely be essential. I was never able to enjoy sex until a partner brought a bullet to the bedroom. Holy shit it changed my life.
I don’t even want this to be a secret, spread the word around! Save a life!
Edit: Any requests to chat will be ignored, thank you, have a nice day 🌸
communication
Don’t fake orgasm or enjoyment. Be honest, be vocal.
Lube!
As I grew older, things didn’t get as wet as I’d like. This would cause a fair amount of bleeding (though no pain) my partner suggested lube and honestly I felt slighted and defeated at the thought of it. We tried it with lube and it was a huge game changer for us.
Pillow under lower back.
*Communication.*
Telling someone when they’re doing something you like, when they could change something to make it feel better for you, when you would prefer to do something else or when they’re stretching into territory that makes you uncomfortable.
Also just making sure someone feels like they’re *performing well*, or so to speak, because those kinds of ego boosts can really help in the bedroom.
Stop watching porn and it will become way more intense.
Explore explore explore have the mindset of. I’ll try anything once kind of thing
Kegels. And getting older.
Start with a person you love and a sensual massage. 10/10 recommend
[removed]
Learn to lick the kitty
Don’t treat foreplay as something that happens before the „actual sex“. Foreplay is already sex, so take as much time as you want and enjoy it. There is no time limit for foreplay even if porn or some guy makes you feel like there is.
Enthusiasm…
Know what you like and be able to ask for that
Eye contact. When you’re with someone you trust, it can take the experience to a whole other level of intimacy.
Tense your vaginal muscles during sex and it will help you climax easier. 😊
Foreplay isn’t the trailer. It’s part of the damn movie. Stop fast-forwarding
Do it with someone you are madly in love with and have been with for a while.
Remember the brain is the most powerful sex organ and skin is the largest sex organ.
Have it with someone you are actually attracted.
Brutally honest Communication, trust and tons of foreplay
Communication, Communication, Communication
Everyone is different. The only way to get better is to communicate and take that direction well.
True and tried: slow down and deepen breathing 10 seconds or so before you come. Try it and let us know.
Enthusiasm and lube.
It’s more than ok to laugh. Sex doesn’t have to be serious.
You should spend as much time, if not more, on foreplay than actual PIV sex.
I think a general point, mostly for men, is to be more patient. Take everything just a little bit slower. Actually listen to your partner and unless they’re telling you to stop, feel free to keep doing exactly what youre doing: same pace, same effort. You don’t have to be flipping positions and upping the ante constantly. Take time to enjoy what feels good.
Don’t have sex in a linear heteronorm way. Don’t treat oral and masturbation as foreplay only. Switch it up from oral-PIV-mutual masturbation-PIV-oral. It will help men last longer and women come more!
I’m sure this would work for either party. I spend the day building up my wife. In the morning, I whisper a subtle you are beautiful in her ear. By lunch I’ll push her against the wall. Grab her firmly and whisper I want you. By dinner, I’ll find a secluded spot away from the kids. Wrap my hand gently around her neck and say something like you’re mine tonight.
Usually she jumps me by this point.