How many relationships were you in before meeting “the one”?
July 2, 2025
How many relationships were you in before meeting “the one”?
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Four. And now I’m single – It turns out I am the one for me. 🤍
Depends on how far back you’re talking. If we’re counting middle school then like 6 or 7.
Zero, IIRC. He was definitely my first consensual kiss.
Have no idea
I prefer to call my husband My Person rather than The One… the latter just carries too much cultural baggage and sounds a bit woo to me… but anyway, two. Ex-husband and ex-girlfriend. Any other brief connections I had were definitely not actual relationships, just some mutual feelings and hanging out a bit.
I had two serious relationships before my guy.
And a few lil college flings.
Zero! My husband was my first. I honestly wasn’t really thinking much about dating/marriage before I met him.
I’m going to assume by relationship you mean something more thing flings, young love, & boyfriends of the week. I would say 4 before I met my first “the one” but things didn’t work out with her, then I met my husband about a year later.
Had a few relationship but nothing that ever felt right all the way through. Still waiting on that feeling.
I am only counting relationships that had a profound emotional connection. I had a few other guys I went on several dates with but it never really went anywhere. And I was lukewarm on them.
Highschool relationship that lasted two month. Possibly doesn’t count as it was a very immature relationship.
highschool sweetheart that lasted through college and a year beyond
Situationship that I kept running into for like 7 years whenever I was single.
Guy I met at 24 who I dated for 5 years and ended up being super abusive
3 month whirlwind relationship that came out of nowhere and then dumped me on my ass
So, 5 before my husband. And my husband is definitely the one.
I really hope the guy I’m with is the one. He is my second relationship.
Assuming the current one is the one one: 4 serious 1+ year relationships (1.5, 1.5, 2.5, and 6), a handful of shortish flings, and a lot of booty call / ONS
My husband is not “the one”, he is my person though..
BUT serious relationship? I only count 5. Not that I only dated 5. I had like multiple men who referred to them as my boyfriend. But it wasn’t too serious so I don’t count them 🤣
My fiancé was my second “boyfriend” and I was his first girlfriend.
One, was with him for one year and met my husband 9mo after we broke up
2 LTR’s and a couple of short flings then i met my husband and it’s been about 19 yrs since then and 17 married 😍
I like the theory that there isn’t a “one” for any of us, but the person we round up to one.I don’t think that’s a static value through our lives and even in a relationship. The best case scenario is you start with a good value, maybe a 0.7 or so, and grow together where both your value for one another infinitely approach that one. None of us are perfect and especially not on everything that comes down the pipe, but hopefully those common points helps you weather through the rough patches.
5 or 6
Zero. Took me by surprise at a young age but sure as shit wasn’t letting that one slip away.
Four, but only two relatively more “significant” relationships that lasted over 1year.
Though I wouldn’t call nor know if my husband is “the one”… He is the person I’m happily married to now though lol.
Two relationships and one fling
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Three long term relationships
Including high school boyfriends, my husband was my fourth relationship ❤️
I (30F) am on my 5th one and I am hoping that I’ve finally found my person. It feels different this time and I am confident that he would be a really good partner but I’ve been burned so many times that it’s hard to believe that I am right this time.
Way too many.
I think 4, but not including situationships.
I don’t love the term or phrase, whatever, “the one.” However, I had 3 boyfriends before I started dating my husband at age 31. I dated a bit as well, but three actual relationships.
2 in high school, 3 in college, 3 after college. Then the one. So he’s number 9.
Six relationships, 4 of them long term.
Third time was the charm 🙂
Five. I met my man when I was 20 and we have been best friends ever since. He is an amazing boyfriend and father. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. This is the first relationship that I’ve ever truly felt heard, respected, and loved.
2 before meeting my forever guy. Getting married next August.
if flings and middle school/high school doesnt count then just one, and thats to hoping the current one im in is the one
Around six and some situationships.. and still haven’t found him. Still hoping ✨
I’m in my 40s and have had been in at least 15 serious relationships since high school. I was married for 13 years from age 23-36. After I divorced, I dated a few guys who fucked me over, so I purposeful stayed single for 2-3 years. Went back to the dating scene just for shits and giggles, and stumbled upon my person. He was just different. I think that time alone working on myself helped.
My husband is lucky number 7
One. It was just a short 3 months teenage relationship at school though. Had a few hook ups before and after that that never became something with feelings attached or a relationship.
Met my husband at 21 right after starting university, and been together ever since.
1 serious relationship only. The rest of them ended too early with no signs of commitment.. Stayed single for a long time too.. Loved that part of my life I had so much time to myself.
One serious relationship and a handful of flings.
2 official. unofficial / situationships too many too count. met him during my “not really in the mood to date” season. realized i had been searching for him the entire time.
6 serious relationships and dated 20+ not so seriously before my partner aka the one and I found each other.
5…..she was just a blind date that has lasted 50 years and 2 months
4 defined relationships, a situationship, a few dates with a few guys, several first dates that went nowhere, and a lot of drunk make outs.
But the answer to the original question is 4 relationships
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Four. And now I’m single – It turns out I am the one for me. 🤍
Depends on how far back you’re talking. If we’re counting middle school then like 6 or 7.
Zero, IIRC. He was definitely my first consensual kiss.
Have no idea
I prefer to call my husband My Person rather than The One… the latter just carries too much cultural baggage and sounds a bit woo to me… but anyway, two. Ex-husband and ex-girlfriend. Any other brief connections I had were definitely not actual relationships, just some mutual feelings and hanging out a bit.
I had two serious relationships before my guy.
And a few lil college flings.
Zero! My husband was my first. I honestly wasn’t really thinking much about dating/marriage before I met him.
I’m going to assume by relationship you mean something more thing flings, young love, & boyfriends of the week. I would say 4 before I met my first “the one” but things didn’t work out with her, then I met my husband about a year later.
Had a few relationship but nothing that ever felt right all the way through. Still waiting on that feeling.
I am only counting relationships that had a profound emotional connection. I had a few other guys I went on several dates with but it never really went anywhere. And I was lukewarm on them.
Highschool relationship that lasted two month. Possibly doesn’t count as it was a very immature relationship.
highschool sweetheart that lasted through college and a year beyond
Situationship that I kept running into for like 7 years whenever I was single.
Guy I met at 24 who I dated for 5 years and ended up being super abusive
3 month whirlwind relationship that came out of nowhere and then dumped me on my ass
So, 5 before my husband. And my husband is definitely the one.
I really hope the guy I’m with is the one. He is my second relationship.
Assuming the current one is the one one: 4 serious 1+ year relationships (1.5, 1.5, 2.5, and 6), a handful of shortish flings, and a lot of booty call / ONS
My husband is not “the one”, he is my person though..
BUT serious relationship? I only count 5. Not that I only dated 5. I had like multiple men who referred to them as my boyfriend. But it wasn’t too serious so I don’t count them 🤣
My fiancé was my second “boyfriend” and I was his first girlfriend.
One, was with him for one year and met my husband 9mo after we broke up
2 LTR’s and a couple of short flings then i met my husband and it’s been about 19 yrs since then and 17 married 😍
I like the theory that there isn’t a “one” for any of us, but the person we round up to one.I don’t think that’s a static value through our lives and even in a relationship. The best case scenario is you start with a good value, maybe a 0.7 or so, and grow together where both your value for one another infinitely approach that one. None of us are perfect and especially not on everything that comes down the pipe, but hopefully those common points helps you weather through the rough patches.
5 or 6
Zero. Took me by surprise at a young age but sure as shit wasn’t letting that one slip away.
Four, but only two relatively more “significant” relationships that lasted over 1year.
Though I wouldn’t call nor know if my husband is “the one”… He is the person I’m happily married to now though lol.
Two relationships and one fling
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Three long term relationships
Including high school boyfriends, my husband was my fourth relationship ❤️
I (30F) am on my 5th one and I am hoping that I’ve finally found my person. It feels different this time and I am confident that he would be a really good partner but I’ve been burned so many times that it’s hard to believe that I am right this time.
Way too many.
I think 4, but not including situationships.
I don’t love the term or phrase, whatever, “the one.” However, I had 3 boyfriends before I started dating my husband at age 31. I dated a bit as well, but three actual relationships.
2 in high school, 3 in college, 3 after college. Then the one. So he’s number 9.
Six relationships, 4 of them long term.
Third time was the charm 🙂
Five. I met my man when I was 20 and we have been best friends ever since. He is an amazing boyfriend and father. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. This is the first relationship that I’ve ever truly felt heard, respected, and loved.
2 before meeting my forever guy. Getting married next August.
if flings and middle school/high school doesnt count then just one, and thats to hoping the current one im in is the one
Around six and some situationships.. and still haven’t found him. Still hoping ✨
I’m in my 40s and have had been in at least 15 serious relationships since high school. I was married for 13 years from age 23-36. After I divorced, I dated a few guys who fucked me over, so I purposeful stayed single for 2-3 years. Went back to the dating scene just for shits and giggles, and stumbled upon my person. He was just different. I think that time alone working on myself helped.
My husband is lucky number 7
One. It was just a short 3 months teenage relationship at school though. Had a few hook ups before and after that that never became something with feelings attached or a relationship.
Met my husband at 21 right after starting university, and been together ever since.
1 serious relationship only. The rest of them ended too early with no signs of commitment.. Stayed single for a long time too.. Loved that part of my life I had so much time to myself.
One serious relationship and a handful of flings.
2 official. unofficial / situationships too many too count. met him during my “not really in the mood to date” season. realized i had been searching for him the entire time.
6 serious relationships and dated 20+ not so seriously before my partner aka the one and I found each other.
5…..she was just a blind date that has lasted 50 years and 2 months
4 defined relationships, a situationship, a few dates with a few guys, several first dates that went nowhere, and a lot of drunk make outs.
But the answer to the original question is 4 relationships