Therapy. It’s part of attachment issues. A therapist can help you slowly build more secure attachment to others.
Limerence and crushes are more often then not a sign of not enough information on the person and you are projecting what you most in a partner or friend onto that partner to fill in the gaps you already have.
So you generally have 1 or 2 options either disconnect from that person and cut contact e.g treating it like a breakup.
OR learn more about the person and learn the idea you have of them in your head isn’t the person they are, leading on from that, I use to try whenever I thought of that person in my head give them features no person could have like wings or something to represent to myself that this is a fiction in my head
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Therapy. It’s part of attachment issues. A therapist can help you slowly build more secure attachment to others.
Limerence and crushes are more often then not a sign of not enough information on the person and you are projecting what you most in a partner or friend onto that partner to fill in the gaps you already have.
So you generally have 1 or 2 options either disconnect from that person and cut contact e.g treating it like a breakup.
OR learn more about the person and learn the idea you have of them in your head isn’t the person they are, leading on from that, I use to try whenever I thought of that person in my head give them features no person could have like wings or something to represent to myself that this is a fiction in my head