Ladies, how do you kept or keep an active sexual life while living with parents or anyone else who wasn’t your SO?
June 29, 2025
Ladies, how do you kept or keep an active sexual life while living with parents or anyone else who wasn’t your SO?
20 comments
Waiting until nobody is home, as both of us live with our families
I used to have my partner stay over and try to be discrete. We probably didn’t manage it but nobody said anything.
If that’s not an option, there are trips away, late night drives to the coast, waiting until nobody is home, online communications…
Normalize spending time together alone in your room. So when the mood does strike it’s not out of the norm for you to head off to your room.
Quickly and quietly.
Wait till no one is home, or be very stealthy. You can make it work.
In this situation, I go to my partners place. We hang out in his room cause that’s where we smoke. I just need to learn to be quiet 😂
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Sometimes we liked to “take a drive” when we had to both live in his parent’s house. Gave his folks the house to themselves and got us the hell out of there for a bit. Keep a kit in the car (blanket, baby wipes, stuff like that) and get food after 😏 perfect cover
I have maintained a sex life while living with a roommate and with my SO’s parents. I just assume everyone else is going to be an adult about it and do what I want. No one has ever brought it up (except once when we were asked to keep it down at night, which was a brief moment of embarrassment and then we all moved on with our lives).
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By enjoying sex
We sleep with a sound machine every night and quite loud. It’s great for sleep but also keeps the dogs from barking at every sound.
We frequently go away together for the weekend.
Toys, that’s how. And no I didn’t have access to adult toys until I was actually an adult so yeah.
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We’d naturally be up late at night after my parents were asleep – bedrooms were also on opposite ends of the house
my partner and i just try to keep it down, but it can be rough since my bed likes to be loud, lol. my dad is incredibly hard of hearing, and my mom is either on the other side of the house or in their bedroom with the door closed and TV blasting (thanks dad lol). my parents also have been going away a lot recently, so that helps.
Use that time to be creative and fun for location make that the spicy part
My partner and I book a hotel once a month for sexual activities (until we have stable jobs, rack up savings to move out one day). Otherwise, we go to the park to bench cuddle and kiss. We both can’t host cause we live with our parents and our parents don’t want guests over.
I had just a policy of “if the door is closed, it’s closed for a reason, so enter at your own risk”.
Basically traumatized a roommate only once when he enthusiastically entered the room, just to realize what I was doing with my bf (now husband). He was kinda shocked and never entered the room when the door was closed again.
Back when living with my parents, I just had the door closed. Everyone knew what was going on, nobody made any drama about it.
Many years later, I now live with my husband in the same house as my elderly father. He’s living on the ground floor, we’re on the upper floor. And of course everyone knows we’re adults, married, and of course we have sex. Not an issue.
Normalize playing shows and youtube videos REAL LOUD in your bedroom with your partner, just hanging out. Maybe invest in a gag just to be safe.
20 comments
Waiting until nobody is home, as both of us live with our families
I used to have my partner stay over and try to be discrete. We probably didn’t manage it but nobody said anything.
If that’s not an option, there are trips away, late night drives to the coast, waiting until nobody is home, online communications…
Normalize spending time together alone in your room. So when the mood does strike it’s not out of the norm for you to head off to your room.
Quickly and quietly.
Wait till no one is home, or be very stealthy. You can make it work.
In this situation, I go to my partners place. We hang out in his room cause that’s where we smoke. I just need to learn to be quiet 😂
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Sometimes we liked to “take a drive” when we had to both live in his parent’s house. Gave his folks the house to themselves and got us the hell out of there for a bit. Keep a kit in the car (blanket, baby wipes, stuff like that) and get food after 😏 perfect cover
I have maintained a sex life while living with a roommate and with my SO’s parents. I just assume everyone else is going to be an adult about it and do what I want. No one has ever brought it up (except once when we were asked to keep it down at night, which was a brief moment of embarrassment and then we all moved on with our lives).
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By enjoying sex
We sleep with a sound machine every night and quite loud. It’s great for sleep but also keeps the dogs from barking at every sound.
We frequently go away together for the weekend.
Toys, that’s how. And no I didn’t have access to adult toys until I was actually an adult so yeah.
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We’d naturally be up late at night after my parents were asleep – bedrooms were also on opposite ends of the house
my partner and i just try to keep it down, but it can be rough since my bed likes to be loud, lol. my dad is incredibly hard of hearing, and my mom is either on the other side of the house or in their bedroom with the door closed and TV blasting (thanks dad lol). my parents also have been going away a lot recently, so that helps.
Use that time to be creative and fun for location make that the spicy part
My partner and I book a hotel once a month for sexual activities (until we have stable jobs, rack up savings to move out one day). Otherwise, we go to the park to bench cuddle and kiss. We both can’t host cause we live with our parents and our parents don’t want guests over.
I had just a policy of “if the door is closed, it’s closed for a reason, so enter at your own risk”.
Basically traumatized a roommate only once when he enthusiastically entered the room, just to realize what I was doing with my bf (now husband). He was kinda shocked and never entered the room when the door was closed again.
Back when living with my parents, I just had the door closed. Everyone knew what was going on, nobody made any drama about it.
Many years later, I now live with my husband in the same house as my elderly father. He’s living on the ground floor, we’re on the upper floor. And of course everyone knows we’re adults, married, and of course we have sex. Not an issue.
Normalize playing shows and youtube videos REAL LOUD in your bedroom with your partner, just hanging out. Maybe invest in a gag just to be safe.