Grinded at my career and was high achieving enough to go remote. Going remote is such a game changer.
Left home & got my education. Changed my life for the better more than I could have possibly imagined.
Therapy ✨ confronting my demons
Post-grad! Good job. Married a stellar dude.
following this cause I want to level up too
Cut certain people out of my life
Didn’t get into a relationship until I knew I wasn’t settling
Got a better job
Got a cat
Started traveling more
Got into a consistent workout routine again
Got back to eating healthier
Cut way back on alcohol
Lived below my means and became debt free. Delayed gratification and some sacrifices for a period of time is really paying off now. I’m not rich by any means, but I’m comfortable and not stressed.
I stopped taking ownership of other people’s problems.
Joined a gym that is en route to my house from work – it’s pricey because it’s in the city but has been a game changer for my fitness, health and mental wellbeing. Being on the way home means it’s always convenient to go and I don’t have many excuses to skip it
Surrounding myself with people that lift me up and support me vs people that rain on your parade (aka family members)
Focus on my job and making money to buy whatever I want. People who say money can’t buy happiness are lying. That only applies to the very rich. The peace of mind that you can afford a roof over your head and food takes a lot of stress out of your life.
Taught myself to code by staring at the computer for 18 hours a day while everyone admonished me for “playing on the computer.” Now I am a top engineer, team lead and almost always have male counterparts. I live outside of US on an island in the Caribbean doing my thing. Be fearless, believe in yourself and go where your heart feels at home.
Therapy, got a certification in the career path I want to switch to, got divorced.
Quit eating processed crap every single day and eat clean, started walking more, started going to therapy, overall just taking better care of myself
Traveled extensively, switched industries and got a better career, volunteered regularly, stay active/workout, remodeled/decorated my home, learned to say no
Put a down payment on a condo in my early 20s instead of going to Europe like I had originally planned. Now, I’m in my 40s, STILL haven’t done my Europe trip (planning soon), but I own my house in a desirable neighborhood and it’s been totally worth it 💯
Education
Finding friends I felt safe with.
Therapy
Really worked hard in college and got my PhD with a scholarship.
Set myself up for a solid career with progression.
Started my own business where I now work when/where/how much I want. WFH
Committed myself to being a great parent – raised awesome kids. Sacrificed to make sure my kids are happy and functioning adults.
Divorced a horrible man (sadly, married a horrible man – which was a mistake).
Did the work in therapy.
Committed myself to saving money consistently for my kids college and my retirement. Made sound financial choices for decades now to build financial security.
Got a dog
Genuinely put more effort into my health! Eating better, exercising more, and regularly managing my mental well being. A lot of things fall into place when you take care of body and mind’s needs.
Stop tolerating nonsense behaviour from family/friends/boys in the name of love. I was always taught that relationships survive when people forgive. Well, fck that. The quality of my life improved exponentially ever since. These people keep lamenting that I’ve changed, that I don’t care anymore, that I’ve become cold. Too bad, they made me like this. I’m happier and peaceful.
Follow through. I want to be more committed in the things I say I will do. I am great at starting things but not great at follow through. I guess another way to think of it would be consistency.
I focused on a 6 month process of tracking my cycle and over all health very 2.0 – I more or less went down the rabbithole of the menstrual cycle regarding my shifting needs on basically every level of life but also got to know-know my shifting nature.
I now celebrate cycle day one, respect myself on a profound level and truly enjoy the entirety of my different energies.
And yes. I also bought myself a Satisfyer 👏😏
Putting myself through college is probably #1 game changer. After that, got a great job and moved to a bigger city, met my now husband and am building a life and family together the way I always dreamed of.
Law of attraction. Retrained my brain for 75% good thoughts. Rather then berating myself in mirror I just genuinely think dam I’ll never be this young, I am pretty etc. same when naked, I look like penguin but dam it keeps me going each day and I’ve waisted wayyyy to many years thinking I was fat when I wasn’t.
Just following this for Inspiration
Moved out of my apartment where I lived with my boyfriend and am now living by myself.
I am no longer a mother yall 🎉🎉
I set personal and professional boundaries
– Work specific certification to get a better job. More than doubled income in the last 3 years
– Personal hobby classes & certifications
– Hired a personal stylist last year, expensive but helped me bridge the gap from where I was to now & having establish process to continue
– Worked with a personal organizer to finish my closet project and misc home items
– Nailed down my fitness routine (strength training)
Finished college. Quit dating anyone who wasn’t kind and self-sufficient.
Improved my sleep experience:
💤 Change my bed
💤hot heated blankets
💤made the house colder to sleep deeper
💤new pillows
💤 bedtime yoga and medidation
Now working on getting an alarm clock instead of waking up with my phone.
Dumped 200 lbs of dead weight (ie. ex bf) 🤣
When I got a big jump in salary we didn’t change our standard of living at all. We used it to pay off debt, save a six month emergency fund, save a down payment, and catch up on retirement
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Grinded at my career and was high achieving enough to go remote. Going remote is such a game changer.
Left home & got my education. Changed my life for the better more than I could have possibly imagined.
Therapy ✨ confronting my demons
Post-grad! Good job. Married a stellar dude.
following this cause I want to level up too
Cut certain people out of my life
Didn’t get into a relationship until I knew I wasn’t settling
Got a better job
Got a cat
Started traveling more
Got into a consistent workout routine again
Got back to eating healthier
Cut way back on alcohol
Lived below my means and became debt free. Delayed gratification and some sacrifices for a period of time is really paying off now. I’m not rich by any means, but I’m comfortable and not stressed.
I stopped taking ownership of other people’s problems.
Joined a gym that is en route to my house from work – it’s pricey because it’s in the city but has been a game changer for my fitness, health and mental wellbeing. Being on the way home means it’s always convenient to go and I don’t have many excuses to skip it
Surrounding myself with people that lift me up and support me vs people that rain on your parade (aka family members)
Focus on my job and making money to buy whatever I want. People who say money can’t buy happiness are lying. That only applies to the very rich. The peace of mind that you can afford a roof over your head and food takes a lot of stress out of your life.
Taught myself to code by staring at the computer for 18 hours a day while everyone admonished me for “playing on the computer.” Now I am a top engineer, team lead and almost always have male counterparts. I live outside of US on an island in the Caribbean doing my thing. Be fearless, believe in yourself and go where your heart feels at home.
Therapy, got a certification in the career path I want to switch to, got divorced.
Quit eating processed crap every single day and eat clean, started walking more, started going to therapy, overall just taking better care of myself
Traveled extensively, switched industries and got a better career, volunteered regularly, stay active/workout, remodeled/decorated my home, learned to say no
Put a down payment on a condo in my early 20s instead of going to Europe like I had originally planned. Now, I’m in my 40s, STILL haven’t done my Europe trip (planning soon), but I own my house in a desirable neighborhood and it’s been totally worth it 💯
Education
Finding friends I felt safe with.
Therapy
Really worked hard in college and got my PhD with a scholarship.
Set myself up for a solid career with progression.
Started my own business where I now work when/where/how much I want. WFH
Committed myself to being a great parent – raised awesome kids. Sacrificed to make sure my kids are happy and functioning adults.
Divorced a horrible man (sadly, married a horrible man – which was a mistake).
Did the work in therapy.
Committed myself to saving money consistently for my kids college and my retirement. Made sound financial choices for decades now to build financial security.
Got a dog
Genuinely put more effort into my health! Eating better, exercising more, and regularly managing my mental well being. A lot of things fall into place when you take care of body and mind’s needs.
Stop tolerating nonsense behaviour from family/friends/boys in the name of love. I was always taught that relationships survive when people forgive. Well, fck that. The quality of my life improved exponentially ever since. These people keep lamenting that I’ve changed, that I don’t care anymore, that I’ve become cold. Too bad, they made me like this. I’m happier and peaceful.
Follow through. I want to be more committed in the things I say I will do. I am great at starting things but not great at follow through. I guess another way to think of it would be consistency.
I focused on a 6 month process of tracking my cycle and over all health very 2.0 – I more or less went down the rabbithole of the menstrual cycle regarding my shifting needs on basically every level of life but also got to know-know my shifting nature.
I now celebrate cycle day one, respect myself on a profound level and truly enjoy the entirety of my different energies.
And yes. I also bought myself a Satisfyer 👏😏
Putting myself through college is probably #1 game changer. After that, got a great job and moved to a bigger city, met my now husband and am building a life and family together the way I always dreamed of.
Law of attraction. Retrained my brain for 75% good thoughts. Rather then berating myself in mirror I just genuinely think dam I’ll never be this young, I am pretty etc. same when naked, I look like penguin but dam it keeps me going each day and I’ve waisted wayyyy to many years thinking I was fat when I wasn’t.
Just following this for Inspiration
Moved out of my apartment where I lived with my boyfriend and am now living by myself.
I am no longer a mother yall 🎉🎉
I set personal and professional boundaries
– Work specific certification to get a better job. More than doubled income in the last 3 years
– Personal hobby classes & certifications
– Hired a personal stylist last year, expensive but helped me bridge the gap from where I was to now & having establish process to continue
– Worked with a personal organizer to finish my closet project and misc home items
– Nailed down my fitness routine (strength training)
Finished college. Quit dating anyone who wasn’t kind and self-sufficient.
Improved my sleep experience:
💤 Change my bed
💤hot heated blankets
💤made the house colder to sleep deeper
💤new pillows
💤 bedtime yoga and medidation
Now working on getting an alarm clock instead of waking up with my phone.
Dumped 200 lbs of dead weight (ie. ex bf) 🤣
When I got a big jump in salary we didn’t change our standard of living at all. We used it to pay off debt, save a six month emergency fund, save a down payment, and catch up on retirement
Learning accountability.
Broke up with my boyfriend.