Hey all – after a week of no contact, I’m accepting that my(30F) FWB (36m) has gone ghost. I’m not emotionally upset, but will miss the benefit lol. I know he’s had a lot going on on this year, including a divorce finalized and I think he’s avoiding opening up/getting hurt bc we had a deep convo after the last time we hooked up. He either unmatched me on the app we met on or deleted it today.
I want to call and send a nice voice note (so he can tell my tone is genuine) just saying:
“Hey, I’m taking the hint and will give you space, but just wanted to say I wish you well, no hard feelings on my end, and thanks for the good time while it lasted and helping me to gain more confidence in who I am. I know you’ve been through a lot and are in a new city, I’ll respect your space, but don’t hesitate to let me know if you need anything.”
What do you all think? Does that seem like too much? Should I just ghost back or do you think it would be worth sending, given I genuinely mean it?
Thanks guys!
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He doesn’t deserve that , you are too kind. You gave yourself confidence, why give them credit to him
IMO not at all worth sending that message.
If he is saying (not with words), he needs space or he is done with this, as sad is it is, let it go. Don’t contact him and have something worst happen.
I think you are a good person and that would be really nice of you to do BUT
He ghosted you and is the jackass here and doesn’t deserve your kindness. I’d leave it be or if you feel the need to respond don’t be as nice
Literally no lol please don’t do this. And ghosting back isn’t a thing
It always feels better to stay silent. You are giving this loser too much energy
If it gives you closure, go for it!
Boooo this man. No voice note for him. Tell it to your open window then close it and let the universe deliver. ✌️
Don’t do it I get it you need closure but don’t do it he doesn’t deserve it. I get it if you guys were dating but it was just a fwb
What’s the point of messaging him? So he can feel good about ghosting you?
lol y’all are hilarious and I appreciate the advice! I’m a little concerned about how depressed he is from our last convo, but I suppose I don’t need to be providing space for free therapy. 😅 I think I just see this in a way where I don’t feel like it’s personal at all was hoping it might be a good example for him to use words to communicate in the future/its okay to prioritize yourself, but maybe he doesn’t need to hear that from me/isn’t in a place to hear those things. Anyway, thank you all for being my sounding board!! 🫶🏻
It seems too nice for someone who ghosts you & doesn’t even give you enough respect or care to just communicate how he feels. Ghosting is not nice. I would just move on..
If he had the decency to end things properly, without ghosting, then this voice note would be wholesome. Save it for a guy who treats you better than this.
When you say it’s been a week of no contact. Does that mean you reached out and he hasn’t responded yet?
No he doesn’t deserve this level of kindness. He’s being an immature dick by ghosting. Block and delete.
No response is a response.