This sounds extremely extremely egotistical I’m aware but I promise you I know I’m not gods gift. I’m 25F, I would say I’m attractive but I’m not anything special, I’m an athlete, go to the gym daily, I’m not even that funny or interesting and I’m by no means rich.
But almost every single man I match with, I’ll exchange numbers or socials have 1 conversation with them then they expect me to have these hours long conversations with them ALL day EVERY DAY.
I have a career, I have friends, I have a family, I’m in university, I have hobbies I’m a busy person and although I’m really good with communication, letting people know when I’m too busy to talk etc, my life doesn’t entirely revolve around dating and every man seems to send me 50 messages a day even when I’m not replying and sometimes even getting AGGRESSIVE. They’ll even tell me they’ve told their friends + family about me, get angry that I’m spending time with my friends (who I won’t see for a few years after this summer which I tell them), text me as if we’re already married, expect me to not see family etc.
THESE ARE ALL MEN IVE NEVER EVER MET.
I can understand talking all day every day if you’ve actually been on dates or you’re getting serious and don’t get me wrong, clear communication is important and you should either message a few times every day OR have deeper conversations every few days if you’re planning on meeting but if you’ve never met someone you are not romantically or sexually involved with that person and they do not owe you 8 hours of conversation 7 days a week and you should not be getting angry that they’re prioritising friends, family or themselves in the little free time they get.
I have an extremely healthy attachment style I’m not avoidant at all and I set boundaries very very clearly but they almost always get ignored so I end up having to block these men meaning I end up never going on dates because these men made me feel unsafe due to their lack of respect for boundaries when I’m by no means a time waster and would like to meet people.
What am I doing to attract such clingy obsessive men?