I have no emotional empathy, this I've learnt to accept.
I'm nearing 30. I'm attractive, have my own place and car – independent.
I'm a man, I workout 6 days a week and diet strictly. I have no emotional empathy, an issue in every relationship. I get told early on "sex is amazing", I'm hot etc. yea, I won't lie early on things feel great.
BUT, as time goes on, people complain about me lacking empathy – I never hide this! Empathy makes 0 sense to me, and I don't pick up on your subtle issues.
I'm bisexual, I've dated men and women, I land people continuously out of my league physically. Yet, over the months, it always breaks down because I lack empathy. And apparently you can't develop empathy. When I was younger, looks and confidence carried me. As I get older, its becomin more and more problematic. I'm not an asshole, I just can't feel your pain. That's so absurd to me, how do I not die alone? I cannot figure people out. They're like abstract beings. I'm academic, and well achieved in every aspect, but the one puzzle I've never been able to figure out is human emotion & its getting tiring. The older I get, the more problematic this becomes. Every break up – 'You don't care about me', 'You have no feelings', ' I need someone that will put me first'….what is the goal here? How do I figure out how to have a relationship where I find their needs an inconvenience that is secondary to my needs?
I'm starting to think people actually prioritise others feelings willingly? But I'm tired because I know I never will.
Do I just accept dying alone and having short, meaningless, 'flings' forever?
I'm growing bored of meaningless relationships, but also, I enjoy them. I want the deep, meaningful connections others have, but I'm starting to realise it might be impossible. Dating wise, do I just have to settle that I will never be the right person long term? Do people really require some deep emotional connection with a partner to be happy? Because in my life, I've never felt like I can connect to others 'deeply'?