Lately what has been happening is men will set up a date, text me throughout the day as if everything is normal, but right before the date, something will come up and they’ll ask me to wait a while just for them to ultimately cancel.
For example, one guy stated his cats unexpectedly got sick and his sister was on the way to bring medicine and if the cats became better, he could still go. (This was a breakfast date).
Another guy stated, his leasing office called him in for something and he’ll try to make it quick.
They both ended up cancelling. The first one barely gave me any updates besides a few pictures and He said he would let me know and he never did but I realized it for myself after 2 hours passed.
How long should I wait around before I assume the date has been cancelled and even go as far as making other plans…
This has never been an issue for me until recently where 2 different people told me something came up at the time of our date, didn’t give updates until hours later and ultimately cancelled.. Where I obviously wasn’t going out by then..
For more context, I met both of these people in person. I was approached by both of these men in public and we had an initial conversation and kept the conversation going through text and call. No weird energy from either of them that inferred they were not interested. ( Separate occasions of course).
I’m soon going to try dating apps like Hinge. When should someone check with me before a date before I assume it’s cancelled. Before my relationship, men I dated would text the morning of and right before the date just to confirm plans and check in with me. But people nowadays just don’t say anything and I’m not sure if I should just show up or not…. I don’t want to waste my time getting ready and waiting around. It takes me two hours to get completely ready and arrive to most dates and that’s a lot of time.