I’ve (36F) been dating a guy (38M) for about 6 weeks.
Early on things moved pretty quickly. We saw each other multiple times a week, texted a lot, and there was a lot of excitement.
Recently things have felt more relaxed. We still text most days, he asks about my day, makes plans to see me, introduces me to friends, pays for dates, is affectionate in person, and generally treats me well.
However, I don’t feel as “pursued” as I did in the beginning. I find myself missing some of the intentionality and excitement from the early weeks.
One thing that added to my uncertainty is that I noticed he updated his dating profile. When I brought up how I was feeling, he said things moved very fast in the beginning and he wants to take his time now.
I’m trying to figure out whether:
1. This is a normal transition from early infatuation into a more realistic dating rhythm.
2. I’m reacting to the dating profile update and reading everything through that lens.
3. Or if I’m correctly picking up that his interest level has cooled.
For context:
• We are not exclusive.
• We’ve been on multiple dates and have become physically intimate.
• He still initiates contact and asks to spend time together.
• I generally feel safe and respected with him.
• My biggest concern is that I don’t feel particularly desired or actively pursued lately.
Has anyone been in a situation like this? What ended up being true?