I'm 24, going to be 25 this year. I graduated college at 23 due to a few hiccups. And during college, I dated a total of three guys, and those obviously didn't work out.
I learned about myself and what types of dynamics I like. For example, I wouldn't like an LDR, and I am really drawn to charismatic, observant people. I'm an intelligent, thoughtful, and reserved woman. A little more weird than mainstream, and I can be kind of inconsistent with hobbies.
I'm currently doing my master's and working at the same time.
I kind of decided that I wasn't going to look for a relationship, and closed that door, but I'm having second thoughts. I'm thinking, like, maybe 25 is the time to be talking to people, like, even just socially, and this isn't the time that I should be closing off from people. But at the same time, dating brings me a lot of pain.
It is incredibly painful to be vulnerable with people, um, watch them spend time around you, say that they like you, and then leave. I really want stability, and I'm trying to find that through um career maybe, hobbies, because finding it through a man didn't work.
I do want to spend the rest of my life with someone.
Maybe someone could review me and, like, comment on my dateability or something like that. Like, how could I make myself more of a long-term, serious relationship quality? What things could I build in my life before/while I start looking for that?