Husband and I got into a huge fight about something not related.
But I guess in his brain, I was getting mad over something tiny.
So to prove his point he sarcastically yells out "Do I get mad at you about the garage?"
Its a 2 car garage. We just moved. I have organized 1 side with tote bins stacked and labeled against the wall and his motorcycles towards the middle of it. The other side is filled halfway with boxes I still have to get through (keep vs donate). There's a clear spacious path in the middle.
Im a sahm. I homeschool our 2 kids, cook, groceries, clean, budget, bills, do everything house related. I youtube things when something breaks ei: running toilet, clogged food grinder/sink, etc… I feel like a handy man at this point, just missing the overalls.
He's the main provider. He comes home from work, eats dinner, then plays video games.
So back to what he yelled out: "Do I get mad at you about the garage?" In my head, he doesn't have grounds to get mad at me about that because a) its both our stuff in it b) I'm slowly working on it and c) its organized enough that no one is tripping over anything. Its his responsibility just as much as mine. He has never said anything about it.
But what really irritated me was the way he said it. Like as if he's been graciously giving me a pass on it and that somehow I should've been thankful for that.
I would've loved it if he said: hey, let's get coffee and tackle the garage this weekend. *instead of the usual sitting on his ass playing video games.
Him helping would've been amazing.
I would've counted that as a date.
My words shoot to kill when I'm mad, so in an instant I said: Did you forget where you grew up from?
Husband flew into a rage before storming off.
PS Husband's family are hoarders with shopping addictions and fear of throwing things away.
He's showing early signs of it.
Maybe I shouldn't have said that, but I'm also tired of practically cleaning up after him. And I would appreciate some help.
I have girl friends and neighbors whose husbands wash their cars and mow the lawn on the weekends. These guys play with their kids after work while their wives go for an hour long walk -not everyday but a couple times a week. Meanwhile, I'm over here learning how to change my car's battery 😑