Both my husband and I are 25 and have a 9 month old baby. When I got pregnant, he explained that he felt uncomfortable having sex knowing there was a baby inside me. Because of that, we only had sex maybe once or twice during my entire pregnancy. It was really hard on me, and I cried about it a lot because I felt unwanted and unattractive as I got bigger.
Now we have a 9 month old, and our sex life still hasn’t really come back. Last month the baby got sick, then we both caught it too, so we didn’t have sex at all. But even outside of that, it’s usually only once or twice a month, and I’m almost always the one initiating it.
I just don’t know how to reconnect in that way again. He’s mentioned before that he has a low libido and just isn’t that interested in sex anymore, but we’re so young and I really want us to have a healthy sex life together.
Has anyone else gone through something similar? Any advice?
Edit to add: I have since lost all of my baby weight plus more (I weigh 102lbs) so I don’t think it’s an attraction thing?
Edit again: To everyone who is suggesting getting his testosterone checked, we did when I was pregnant and they came back normal. It took him awhile to admit to me that he was unattracted to be basically while I was pregnant so I had suggested him to get his bloodwork done. After it came back normal he had admitted to not wanting to have sex while pregnant.