I’ve never been in a relationship but I have dated a decent amount of guys over the years (I’m 24) with the hopes to find a romantic partner. This year in particular, I chose to put myself out there more, but after several talking stages on dating apps, I said f*ck it and chose to go casual.
Two months ago, I met this guy on tinder and we were both very specific about what we wanted. Something casual but exclusive with no feelings involved. We planned to meet up on a Sunday to get to know each other but he was acting weird on the day and ghosted me. I blocked him the same day and went on with my life.
Following a shitty dating experience with this guy I really liked, I wanted to get into something casual but didn’t want to go back on the apps. I unblocked the guy I was talking to from two months and we started talking again about last week. We actually met up this time, funnily enough on a Sunday and we had sex.
when we were together, he told me to let him know when I was free during the week to meet up again. I come back to my place and we text each other good night. Monday comes, we don’t talk to each other. Tuesday morning, I text him “you free tonight?” I get nothing back from him the whole day. I then delete the message on Wednesday because I was embarrassed lol.
Sunday morning, I message him, asking him if he was still down for us to still keep being casual because we hadn’t exchanged any texts the whole week. Still, he doesn’t respond, so out of frustration, I tell him to just be honest with me if he wants to end things. He does come back and apologise, asking if I wanted to have sex, I respond, saying “yeah, 5 days ago” and I haven’t had a response from him since. I then messaged him today again, asking if we wanted to meet up and still haven’t had a reply back.
I just don’t know what he’s playing at lol. I’ve given him the opportunity to end things and he doesn’t seem like he wants to, yet his communication is still shit. I don’t have a problem with a long response time but completely ignoring me is just weird.
I was hoping that a casual situation would be easier than dating because the only thing I craved was sex, rather than being emotionally attached to someone. I just feel like things are happening on his terms rather than being mutual. It’s starting to feel like I’m begging him lol.
I know I should probably just leave him alone at this point, and I plan to but it’s just annoying. I can’t win lol.