So a new gym instructor recently joined my gym. He's my age and moved here from another part of the country. I'm naturally chatty and get along with all the trainers, but this guy seemed especially attentive from the start. When I first introduced myself and asked if he was new he seemed excited that I was interested… He'd come over almost every time I finished an exercise, smile a lot, give me thumbs-ups, and I'd often catch him looking at me before he quickly looked away. When I showed him my workout schedule on my phone, he'd sometimes grab the hand holding it and stand very close to me. Compared to how he interacted with other members, he seemed more excited to train me and gave me noticeably more attention.
A few days ago, I tried to get a little closer to him, and I asked what brought him to this city, and he told me he moved here because of his girlfriend. The way he said it almost felt reluctant, like he thought I might be disappointed. I responded positively and asked about her to make it clear I was just having a genuine conversation.
After that, he seemed a bit quieter for a while. But today I greeted him with a big smile and wave and a few minutes later we ended up having a long conversation about his jobs, and he seemed eager to talk. He even sat down to chat, seemed a little nervous and excited to be talking to me.. and kept looking for me afterwards or coming to tell me what exercise was next instead of waiting for me to approach him, like everyone else does in my gym.
All of this has left me wondering whether I misread the situation. Some of his behavior felt flirtatious to me, he frequent attention, the eye contact, the physical closeness, and how much more engaged he seemed with me than with others. Was he possibly flirting, or is he just a very friendly instructor who was happy to connect with someone? And given that he has a serious girlfriend, what should I do?