I ( 30m) started seeing this girl (29F) about 7 months ago. Things have been going great, tons of positive emotions, lots of passion and incredible compatibility all around.
I’ve got nothing but green flags from her since the first night we might.
Fast forward to a few days ago, she had a minor medical issue and ended up in the hospital for a few days. When she got discharged, we were making our way home and passed by a higher end restaurant and somewhere along the line I made a dicey joke about most of their waitresses being high end escorts ( we have a pretty weird sense of humour, which also connects lol )
After I made the joke, she went on to tell me when she was 19 she signed herself up for a website and went on dates with older, significantly wealthy men who would fund her bank account. Let’s all be real here, she herself was an escort.
This literally took my breath out of my soul and my feet went weak and numb. I couldn’t believe what I just heard. She then went on to tell me ever so shamelessly about the specific scenarios and how it rolled out.
I literally cannot look at her the same. I can’t even make eye contact with her. I feel disgusting. I feel like I wish I got these answers 7 months ago. I would have never, in a million years took her to be someone that would do that. She went on to explain how gross it made her feel, etc but in all honestly when she told me she had zero shame and I believe she only feels the guilt because I questioned her on it.
I didn’t get angry, I didn’t raise my voice. I simply stated how concerning that is towards her character and that I don’t know if I’ll be able to look at her the same way.
I know this was 9 years ago, but the effort it took her to actually set it all up and go through with it multiple times is what really bothers me.
It absolutely breaks me but I don’t think I can continue to see her. She’s devastated that it’s affecting me this much but man. I just don’t think I’d ever be able to look at her the same way.
Am I making the right call to walk away from this?