Bf (38) and I (42) became exclusive after a couple months of dating. About a month into the relationship, one of his roommates invited over a neighbor who also happened to be someone my boyfriend slept with in the past. We had already talked about her before because I felt like she was still interested in him. He told me she probably wasn’t.
One night while him and I couldn’t even talk on the phone, she came over for dinner with the roommates and ended up sleeping over on the couch. Later, she said her neck hurt, and my boyfriend invited her into his bed “to be nice.” The problem is… he stayed in the bed too.
What really broke me wasn’t just that. It’s that he hid it from me for a week and only admitted it while he was high during a birthday weekend trip he took me on.
Since then, I haven’t been able to feel safe, calm, or secure in the relationship again. Am I overreacting? What would you do?