I’m seeing someone soon and there’s a chance things might move towards kissing or sex. I like her, but I’m panicking because I don’t want to come across like a complete virgin.
I’m not trying to pretend I’m some player. I just don’t want to seem terrified, stiff, clueless, or awkward.
Main things I’m worried about How do you kiss when you’ve never done it before?
What do you actually do with your lips?
How do I avoid being too tense, too forceful, or doing too much?
If things move towards sex, how do I stay calm and not make it obvious I’ve never done it before?
I also think I’m going to finish really fast, lol. How do I handle that without making it awkward?
What if I lose my erection, freeze, or don’t know what to do next?
What do you say after a kiss or after sex so it doesn’t feel weird?
I’m looking for practical advice. I want to be respectful and calm, but I’m nervous because this would be my first time and I don’t want it to be obvious.