He has tics, and he didn’t tell me. I’ve been with him for one year and I’ve been putting up with his symptoms. I feel like i can’t do it anymore. As if I’ve been forced into some kind of caretaker role that i did not agree or consent to. When I first met him he was nothing like this, I later found out from his parents it's because he was on a higher dose of medication. He has tics that often change. He mumbles, groans and talks to himself. Will get lost midway through a sentence and forget what he’s doing so you have to remind him. I just feel as though I can do better than him. I adore him I really do and i know he has the potential to become someone better. I just don’t think I am the right partner to be able to handle it
There’s other things i recognise in him that I don’t like. He isn’t very considerate of other people. He stopped hanging out with his friends after he started dating me. His friends make fun of him when He does stupid stuff like walk into a wall or walk into people or forget and misplace items that make it so easy to make fun of him and I feel that others wonder why I put up with him. Or look down on me in pity like ‘how insecure must she be to be with him’. In my opinion, i just feel as though I can’t do it anymore.
Other than the negatives. He is a good person, warm and beautiful inside and out. His parents are lovely people and they accept me. I just don’t think I can be strong enough for him.
I have thoughts that I may regret it because I will not be able to find someone so caring and so welcoming and thoughtful.
To everyone who has a condition or neurodivergence, it is not fair to just expect your partner to be expected to put up with it. It’s not fair on them and it’s not fair on you. Give them a choice, give them an option if they want to go through the journey with you. I am starting to resent my partner because he did not give me a choice. Feelings became involved before i could make an informed decision. I understand that people do not want to disclose their conditions but you have to make your partner aware so they know how to best support you. Please do not leave your partner in the dark. Use your discretion. My partner and I were dating six months in and he did not disclose anything to me. It’s not fair and I feel so angry that he didn’t give me a choice. It's been a year now and he's still not being completely honest with me. His Psychiatric called the coversations he's having as responding to voices. But my boyfriend will never describe it in that way.
We are also long distance. Australia to United Kingdom. I’m, not sure if I should continue this relationship.