Earlier this year I matched with a guy on Hinge and we talked consistently for about 2 weeks. Great conversations, lots in common, calls, etc.
Things kind of fizzled because he was traveling, randomly FaceTiming me, and I kept rescheduling calls/telling him we should talk when he got back. Then after our last interaction, we didn’t talk for about a week, so I unmatched him and moved on. I didn’t think too much about it at the time because I was casually dating too.
A couple months later he reached back out apologizing and said he was overwhelmed with life/work and had pulled away from dating at the time.
Since reconnecting, he’s honestly been very consistent, emotionally open, intentional, respectful, and we’ve now FaceTimed and gone on a date that went really well.
The issue is I can’t stop wondering:
> if he genuinely liked me, why let things fizzle the first time?
Part of me thinks timing genuinely mattered. Another part of me wonders if he’s lonely, something else didn’t work out, or if I’m just comfort/company right now.
At the same time, I know I also struggle with fear of rejection and people changing their minds after getting close to me.
So I genuinely can’t tell if this sounds like a normal reconnection that could become something healthy or if I’m ignoring a red flag.