Hi! F/27 here.
I’ve been seeing my boyfriend (M/29) for about 4 months now. We’re really aligned on the big things. marriage, kids, future goals, etc. We have the same humour, very similar personalities, and we’re both massive foodies. we get on amazingly.
The first month felt INTENSE in the best way. We were obsessed with each other; constantly kissing (to the point I literally got beard rash lol), cuddling through films, staying up until 4am just talking, laughing, joking around. I’ve genuinely never felt such a warm, strong connection with someone so quickly before. It felt like two teenagers in love!
Early on, he did say he was mindful of the “honeymoon phase” and that things naturally calm down over time. I remember saying that I don’t think affection and excitement necessarily fade when there’s a real connection. Obviously I know the honeymoon phase exists, but I didn’t expect things like affection, compliments, initiating kisses, etc. to drop off this much.
Now at 4 months, I feel like I’m initiating most kisses and hugs. He jokingly calls me “needy” sometimes when I go to kiss him. I know he’s probably teasing, but it still makes me overthink because… it’s literally just affection?
I also feel like I initiate sex most of the time too. I brought it up and he said it’s because he doesn’t want me to think that’s all he wants from me. I told him I’d never think that..if anything, when I’m really happy with someone my drive goes through the roof lol (and it has!).
Another thing is he rarely plans dates now. Most of the time we just go to each other’s houses and hang out there.
So I guess I’m wondering..is this just a normal transition out of the honeymoon phase, or does it sound like he’s losing interest a bit? What should I do?