Hey ladies, I’d really appreciate your advice.
I’m 27M. A couple years ago I was severely overweight, but over the last year and a half I worked super hard on my mental and physical health, lost 130lbs/60kg, and completely changed my lifestyle through the gym and healthy eating.
Dating has been better since then but very casual, I don’t really connect with most girls. Recently though, I met someone I genuinely like. We’ve been dating for almost 2 months (7 dates), there’s a strong physical connection, and we align really well on values, careers, family, and what we want long term.
We have been very intimate in parks (intense make out sessions, touching etc…) but never in a closed environment, it’s gonna happen soon.
The only thing I haven’t been fully honest about is my body. Even though I’m fit now (6ft4 with big arms and shoulders), I have a lot of large stretch marks across my stomach and hips from the weight gain, plus two large scars on my chest from loose skin surgery 8 months ago.
I’m comfortable enough to take my shirt off at the beach because I worked super hard to improve my body and don’t care what random people think but intimacy feels more vulnerable and I worry it could be a dealbreaker for her.
I did briefly tell her I used to be overweight and lost a significant amount of weight, and she didn’t seem to care much about it. It was a super short conversation with not much to it.
Should i give her a heads up ?
As women, how would you want a guy to approach this conversation?
Would this be a dealbreaker for you ?
Ps : i can take brutal honesty if that’s the case. Actually prefer it.
Thanks