TL;DR; My Boyfriend has significantly more money than I do and i rlly don’t know how to handle it.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now. When we first started dating he had like 10-20k in savings. He plays academy football and has been earning money since like 14 or 15 idk. He has 63k by now and he’ll probably end the year with 80k. I think he got like 10k from his Grandma 2 years ago but except from that all money was earned by him. He lives in a massive house his dad built, and almost every time someone came over for the first time while I was there, reactions such as “oh so you’re rich rich” came up. His mom didn’t work for 20 years and only went back to working like last year (part-time)
I on the other hand have 5 siblings, had to share a room with three of them, now 2 since we moved, we rarely went eating out, both of my parents worked for my entire life, you get the memo. The older my bf and I got the more serious our relationship became and the more we talked about money. Today he asked me if he could reach 1 million by 25 and I told him yes but he noticed the switch in my mood. I explained to him how it was hard constantly hearing him talk about his money, his Trade Republic etc. I understand that we have different situations and that even amongst rich people his situation is a big exception. It’s just that I feel so annoyed constantly talking about his money, while I’m struggling. Talking about my feelings only leads to arguments and tbh I’m not even sure if he understands me or if he’ll ever be able to do so. I sometimes just feel like it’s a little tone deaf to talk to me about that stuff but on the other hand he’s my bf and I want him to be able to talk about it. I feel like I’m the problem in this situation and I’m the one who has to learn how to handle these feelings. So do you have any advice on how to handle the situation/my feelings?