Sorry in advance for the long post! I, 31F, was hurt by someone, 32M, a few months ago. He ghosted me after we dated for a bit, so I got upset and removed him off my socials. He came back to tell me he should’ve never dated me because he wasn’t in the right headspace after a month of silence. I told him I understood and no hard feelings, he didn’t respond to that and just disappeared again. I was heartbroken, but I didn’t chase him. Instead I moved on and started dating other people. Then he reappears a couple of weeks ago to tell me he’s changed and he’d like a second chance, wants to take me to dinner to apologize. I told him that if I agree he can’t do what he did last time, and if he doesn’t think things are working out to just communicate with me. He tells me he went to therapy, and worked out his issues and promises he will. So I believe him.
He’s been away for work, but we’ve been texting or calling daily and had plans to meet next week since he’s back now. He re-added me on all our socials and he even sent me flowers. He tells me he hasn’t been talking to anyone else this entire time and only believes in dating one person at once so he’ll just be focusing on me. Then almost 2 days ago…he stopped communicating with me again. The last thing he said was that he apologizes for not talking much because he doesn’t feel good/in a lot of pain and hasn’t been on his phone, which I get because he was hurt while deployed and was actually sent home early, but I haven’t heard from him at all after that. I sent him a text yesterday morning but he left that on delivered. We literally spent 3+ hours on FaceTime the night the night prior and he immediately texted me after to tell me how much he likes me. I feel kinda dumb at this point because maybe I should’ve known better. I just don’t understand what the point of doing this to me was. Like why reconnect and make all these promises and reopen an emotional connection just to ghost again. Do you think it’d be overreacting to just block him on everything and move on for good this time? Should I just do nothing and wait for him to give me an explanation? Maybe send him one last text? Thoughts? I just think going this long without a single message back when we’ve been talking every day is too much. Plus we weren’t just texting, he was also snapping me and sending me posts on Instagram, etc. everyday too, but all of it stopped.