For some context, i have always struggled with strong social anxiety and have been improving my social skills and learning how to deal with this emotion with therapy.
Personally, it is way easier for me to keep a conversation going when face to face rather then online. I can read the person better and it feels easier to tell if they're also enjoying the interaction.
But when it comes to sending a message, I can't help but feel like anything I say is boring. At the moment, I am trying to keep contact with a girl I met in in a neighboring city when visiting some of my friends. The distance forces me to maintain contact only online until I visit her city again.
We had the best time together and I didn't want to let things cool down since I don't really know when i'll have the opportunity to visit her again, but whenever I feel like talking to her i just run out of topics and feel like there is nothing interesting to say. Even tho I know some things about her, likings and personal stuff, I feel like bringing these topics to start a conversation would be just so random.
Despite responding to messages within a normal timeframe she doesn't post much, so starting conversations over a story for example is not usually an option.
What could help me start a conversation and how do I keep it on going?
Does online interaction always feels random or is it just my anxiety making me overthink?