First, I would like to say that I love him, but I genuinely can't tell if its because I care for him as a human or as a romantic partner. I was initially attracted to him because of his incredible musical ability and soft, emotional and unique personality when we met at college. He was in love with me for a while before we dated and we'd talk for hours. Since then we have been together for a year, and things moved really fast.
After a few months he started shouting at me a lot over small things, but would then calm down after maybe an hour of intense anger. This could be over something like dripping water on the floor (he had asked me not to multiple times), or getting lost when we are out (I am really really bad with directions). I am very emotional, so usually immediately break down into tears, but argue back. I find when he argues he doesn't feel listened to so gets more and more enraged. When it's over we both feel awful and he usually wants to cuddle. I noticed he also argues with his mom a lot (though sometimes think it's justified, I know it sounds like a red flag). Travelling is awful with him and the way he speaks to me is genuinely shocking at times.
It's clear that he has some emotional issues and deep-seated problems with both of his parents which he hasn't resolved. I've asked him to get therapy after some kind of serious thoughts he opened up about, but then he changed his mind. He's been struggling with unemployment too which doesn't help. He struggles to eat and look after himself to an extent.
The worst part is I feel I click with him like no one else. We have similar interests and love creating together, share the same sense of humor. I tear up at the thought of breaking his heart. I know he really deeply loves me and his family tells me the same. He's an extremely intelligent and earnest person who feels deeply and has a lot of love in his heart.
It's mainly the shouting aspect I can't handle. He can't go longer than a few days without shouting in my face and it makes me think I can never continue to live a life like this. I feel sorry for him. On the other hand, he really cares for me, protects me, is extremely loyal and not jealous or possessive.
In short I don't know what to do. I have basically no friends and would feel completely alone without him. When I'm with him, I have life. Is there a way his anger can be fixed? I need someone to talk me through my own headspace, as I have no one to talk to about this.