I’m not trying to seek attention from others but I do enjoy my bikini and tan lines and I love cute dresses and tank tops all summer. He finds it disrespectful to our marriage. But then he looks at other women who do dress this way and ignores me when I’m modest. He also looks at other women online who do dress very revealing and clearly enjoys it! How do I feel good about myself when I’m shamed for the very behavior he finds stimulating when other women do it? Do other women feel this hypocrisy or am I really being disrespectful? I feel disrespected when he gets off to other women instead of noticing me. Not sure how to get him to change his views especially when I don’t see how this dynamic is safe or fair to me either.